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*mantha
writes:Well I really liked this guy last year and we would talk everyday. So my friend and I went over to his house one night, I was so happy until I saw the real him. He was such a player! The whole night he was touching me all over and when I saw him the next day he acted like nothing hapened. Later that year he asked if I wanted to have sex, I said yes. I never did though because im not like that. So what I want to know is why do I still like him? He's not even cute and he's had sex with so many girls, when I think about him he makes me so happy. What do I do? ( oh and he also tried to get with my freind and I still like him) Help!!!
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (12 March 2011):
Most girls, specially when younger, would like to be with a bad boy. It's more sexually appealing being with him than being with a typical nerd who would even ask you before touching your hand.
If you want a good reputation and you appreciate relationship beyond sex, I would recommend staying away from him.
If you don't mind about that and you want to enjoy your life, go and have fun with him. Just be sure he uses protection always. And be aware the any protection can fail (even when it's very uncommon) so, if you don't want to take risks wait for someone less promiscuous.
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reader, Beccccccy  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 Girls always go for guys like this ..and you know what ? They rarely are " Cute " ..but they have " Something " .... You know what ? Dont do anything , just continue with your life ..this guy is rearly " risky business " .. I'd just flirt , and give him nothing ( if hes around ) But dont worry about it ..these are natural feelings , you are young , thats awesome ..but just stick to your beliefs ..things can change quickly . Good luck ..Becc
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 I guess we cant help who we like. I think you might be attracted to this bad boy side of him even though you dont want to be. Dont worry this happens to the best of us.
Do you think that you would ever be able to change him? When he was touching you, the best thing you could have done was stand up to him and say that you didnt feel comfortable him doing that. Ok so yes he may have slept with a lot of girls but it doesnt mean that he is a bad person deep down.
However it does sound like he was only looking for sex from you, and as you said you are not like that. Therefore I think you just need to tell yourself that you are wanting something more than sex from a guy and just try and move on.
Get a active social life and put yourself in to situations where you can meet new people. Keeping yourself busy will keep him off your mind and you can set yourself plans to meet someone else who likes you as a person and is not only after sex. Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): I think you are latched on to a part of his personality you do like but when your conscience kicks in it tells you to look at the big picture... as a result you have mixed feelings. This is quite common for people your age so I'd sit down and list the traits you do like about him and the things you dont like. Weigh them out and see if things are worth pursuing. Good luck.
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reader, ashieebabiee +, writes (12 March 2011):
 the only reason why you like him is that because he's playing mind games with you wanting you and then pulling away. But trust me, once you get to be with him hell just drop you....the best thing to do is to stay away from him youll never have him and all he wants from you is just sex..
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