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writes: Well, I really Love this Guy. He is Emo. And I do not care what anyone thinks of it. I am not Emo, At all.We have Never gone out. He was Never My Boyfriend.He is thee Most Amazing Person I have Ever met.There is NO one who is even close to him.He knows that I do love him. He does not feel the same way.And he doesn't have to. I never asked him to.Though, He says that he does like me..We've kissed and Made out. But not always does that mean something..In this case, It didn't.We text 24/7 Morning 'till night.He is the one that Always text me.He texts me every single night to tell me Goodnight and that he loves me. (Not in a -In love way) And never forgets.If anyone read all our messages to each other, You'd think we we're married.We don't hang out much. But we have.I've had a trust problem with him, Because He lost my trust for him.He's a big Player.Liar and Cheater. (not on me)But Frankly that doesn't do one thing to make me stop loving him.I'm really trying to move on.. At least as much As I can. but it's not working. The more I try to let go, The tighter I hold on.One day, about maybe, 2 weeks ago.. He all of a sudden stopped talking to me. Just out of NO WHERE. And I Always wait for him to text me, (That Way I know he's thinking of me) And He didn't say Goodnight.. That's when I knew something was wrong.Although I did not text him and ask him why.So, At the end of the week, I had enough and I wanted to know what was up, why he stopped talking to me.So i text him and I said "Why haven't we been talking?" He Responds "Your over me, So leave me Alone." I go, "I'm not over you!" Then Blah Blah.. I asked him again cause he didn't answer it, and so this time, he did. Turns out my Friend (Male)Has been telling him that I'm over him and all that (Which I did say) But obviously, I'm not.So that's why stopped talking to me. So i'm like "So, If I don't love you. We can't be friends?" And he says Yeah.And I say That's stupid!!! He responds saying "It's how it is. So if you hate me, or are over me. Then just leave." I'm not that Shocked that he said that.. And So I say, "I don't hate you, and i'm not over you. But i'm not gonna stay."I didn't Cry that day.But everyday after that,, I did. :/I miss him like crazy!!For me, It's not enough to just say he doesn't care. But he even shows it.. Why Do I keep looking Back?Please Help! Thank you. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): you know same thing happened to mei understand you so well.it's been 2 months and i can't move on :(some people say 'your only 15 this isn't love you'll find someone else' but no i can't because i actually do love him. we used to txt each other all the time, i had to delete my messages because i didnt have enough memory on my phone, but before i did i used to look through them first because he said so many sweet things, and yes he txted me all the time he was always the first 1, i used to wake up late and i had abotu 12 messages on my phone and he was saying stuff like why arnt you talking to me have i done something wrong. i got a bit suspicious to be honest and made a fake facebook account as soon as put some nice pictures of a girl and added him on he asked for msn and for webcam. and then i txted his phone as me asking him what he was doing. he told me that he was out at shoppin and he was busy so he couldn't txt me till late. so i went on webcam and he saw me on it. he went offlineand thats how it ended i found out all the lies he had told me i should forget him already but it just doesnt work does it ? but i can't i still love him and i know he doesnt love me, but now i dont txt him 24/7 i feel emptiness insideanyway the point is the emo you like is not worth it the boy i like is not worth it but we still can't forget them :(trying to move on but seriously does not work at all
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): How can you be missing something that wasn't even real? He never even loved you as a friend. He says he doesn't want you around if you don't love him romantically, even though he has no romantic feelings for you. That's because he was just using you to feel better about himself, and maybe one day for sex if he could get it out of you. He was, 100%, using you. He knew you loved him, so he acted sweet to you so that you would give him all the love and attention he wanted even though he didn't have to give any to you. He never cared about you, he only cared about what you could do/give to him. Remember that, and find a guy who thinks you are amazing.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (3 June 2010):
How can you be over something you never had? it sounds like to me he likes playing head games w/ you because he can! you allow it? there is nothing wrong w/ loving some'one but last time i checked it's a 2 way street. it all sounds so very childish. you need to start respecting your'self and know you are worth more then a text message!!! and everything will fall into place stand your ground and know the difference between friendship and true love.
Best Wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): I am in a similar situation, I really like this boy; he's a skater boy. I have never felt this way about anyone before, I would give my life for him. I know it's probably not marriage love; but there is something there. he flirts with me all the time and he tells me he loves me, although he's got a girlfriend;/ he's always telling me that he will protect me no matter what. he's my bestfriend aswell as the guy I have a thing for. the thing I have done to try and forget him are... delete his mobile number, him as a facebook friend, and his msn address. I don't talk to him that much anymore but I still really like him- I suppose I will get over him in time. he treats me like absoloute crap but I don't care aslong as he is happy. 3 you deserve better, and I suppose I do too.
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reader, Charleybabes0811  +, writes (3 June 2010):
You're between 13-15, so everything now feels like love.When I was 14 i was with a guy, call him Shaun, and we broke up, i thought it was love and i couldnt see us breaking up.. Then he met my best friends, and he liked them. We broke up and i cried for a month. But then i moved on. I had another serious relationship a while after, and then it finished about a year after we split up on really bad terms. I was on msn and started talking to Shaun again, who'd split up with his gf too. We met, and actually were together for about a year and a half..What i mean is babe, it's gonna feel shitty until it doesnt. Take time and mend your broken heart. Maybe one day if it's meant to be, then it will be :)Don't worry honey, you'll be fine. Let me know
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reader, MandaManderkins +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Dear Girl in desperate need of some advice, sorry, pressed enter before the advice came. This boy is broken and lonely and well EMO.. He wants you to love him so he can feel better about himself, Emo is short for EMOTIONAL, (it's like a man on estrogen...hahah) he want's you to love him (OH AND YOUR MALE FRIEND IS MEAN FOR WHAT HE DID) And really you should try to talk it out with him. Good luck fellow girlly.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Move on sweetie.
He doesn't care for you and you deserve better then this.
You shouldn't get involved with "emos" either. I have nothing against them and use to be friends with one. The problem with them is that their behavior and thinking is very unhealthy and they are so wrapped up in their problems they don't care about anything else. These "emos" need professional help and too seek one as a friend or comfort is only going to end up in tears.
It's going to be ok. Good Luck!
There is nothing wrong with being friends with "emos" but was just warning you not to expect friendship back hon.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 I think you keep looking back because you are desperate to belong to someone, and he is the one you wanted. He rejected you, but you refused to give him up. The only way to stop looking back is to make yourself stop! You just have to draw a line somewhere. I don't think he is interested in you, he just likes to use you and have you around.
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