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*myxavier
writes:My partner and I both watch porn but I prefer to watch it seperately as i feel uncomfortable watching it with my partner and i like to be soley with him when we are together. i know he would like to watch it together but he doesnt press me to watch it with him and seems quite happy to watch it alone when we cannot be together which i dont have a problem with.My question is why if i enjoy watching it alone why do i feel so guilty about it? we are both open about it so its not like im hiding anything but i just feel so guilty, anyone have the same problem or know why i feel like this help please x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): Perhaps because deep down you would ideally want only him. Perhaps his use of it on his own, when he can't be with you, feels sort of like he has found a substitute... a stand in for when you're not around... and you don't want one.
If you're not with him, he's okay with that... he'll do something else. The mere fact that he has something 'else' that he puts on even keel with you... as a substitution for when you're not around... seems very sad. As if he rotates the two out...
Maybe when you watch it... it is really about feeling sad.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 Because you know that the young actresses were sacrificing their beauty and innocence for money. When you are with your partner you focus on you and his pleasure but by yourself, it is like a woman to woman thing, and you can't help but wonder what this girl's future would be like. If I feel guilty that would be my reason. However, you could be or have been religious, your parents might have punished you for touching yourself or reading adult materials as a child. Another reason is that you feel like you are betraying your husband by being turned on by men with big cocks. You secretly wish your husband was more like those guys in porn.
There will always be guilt watching porn because of how we had been taught about sex. Some feel immense guilt and have trouble sleeping afterwards, while some had little nigging voices that tell them it's a guilty pleasure not to be indulged upon.
If you like watching porn you would always come back to it. No amount of guilt is going to stop it. Let no one tell you what's right or wrong. Just don't get addicted to it.
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