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writes:please help any advice or if you know why im feeling like this etc, but i have had drepression on and off and this year felt worse to the point of going to the doctor and i now see a counsellor which is good. im not working and living at home but i feel the reason im not working is due to be out of work too long and now im scared of having to be some where each day all day in case i dont feel that well. i think i worry a lot and its all in the mind but i do worry about working in case i feel a bit unwell. i sometimes feel a bit sick due to worrying to much, im stuck in a rut and dont like going away from home. im ok going out and about etc for the day but im away 4 days at xmas with my partner and was excited about staying with him and his family but now im not feeling 100 percent and feel a bit sick and a bit low. im worried about going away at xmas but really would like to go and not worry so much about things. its all in the mind. i can never think positive and im in a rut. why do i wake up feeling a bit low and sometimes a bit sick.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (2 December 2011):
 Not enough information here to know how bad your depression is. There are two types, Situational Depression, caused by life stresses, like bereavement, lost of job, money troubles and things like that, and then there is Clinical Depression, which can just knock you down like that, might be genetic, or follows on from Situation Depression which has gone on too long.Your under a counsellor good, she's attached to the doctor, and hasn't recommended you back to him. Make sure you do any homework or tasks that she has set. If you are feeling worse it's a good idea to go back and see your doctor. Sometime anti-depressants can help a lot (especially with clinical depression)Then there is self help. I want you to register with this website. http://www.patientslikeme.com/home Nope, I don't work for them, but it's a great site for tracking your moods and how you feel every day. You can see if you are getting better or worse. You can track and see if you feel better or worse after counselling. (counselling didn't help me, but pills did) Monitoring how you are feeling regularly is the first step to controlling and beating depression. Next I want you to draw up a list of healthy things you can do to improve your life. At the moment you are just sitting and worrying about your boyfriend. Sitting and worrying is the worst thing you can do with depression. It only helps to make the "black dog" grow stronger. Instead, we need you to be going out in the fresh air, we need you to be washing yourself and putting on nice clothes and make up, we need you to make the small steps necessary to start visiting friends and family. During this time of sickness, the most important thing you can do is to exercise if you can, and most of all you need to laugh. Get funny video's, read funny books, phone friends and try to think of positive stuff to say. Eat good food, not cola, no pop, drink lots of water. Exercise and laughter raise serotonin levels (just like the tablets) bad food, negative thoughts, cause serotonin to go down again.NO ALCOHOL - ALCOHOL MAKES YOU NEGATIVE AND MAKES DEPRESSION WORSE.Are you sleeping at least 8 hours (max 10), sleeping more or sleeping less.. all needs to be charted, so you can just how bad your depression is. Your not depressed every day, or all day, but you need to keep some kind of record of what makes you feel better and why.Counselling and therapy is not enough, you may not need tablets, but you do need to do some self-help stuff.NB: Sometimes depression goes away on it own, sometimes it never goes, but will go and come back like an unfaithful man. That's why it's so hard to treat, it has many different symptoms and depends very much on the person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): very good advice and thanks everyone. yes i stick with the countsellor but its free through the doctor so only goes on 6 weeks and then shes puting me on a group mindfulness course for 8 weeks which should be good. only thing is i want to do each time so would a job get in the ways of that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2011): thanks everyone for your help.x
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reader, bluecow +, writes (23 November 2011):
 oh I have been there and walked a mile in your shoes. I used to describe my depression as being locked in a grey room with no doors but a window. Outside the window I could see everyone else having a nice time in the sunshine, while I was locked inside in the gloom.A number of things together is what helped me.*Honesty - with partner, family, friends, doctors and YOURSELF*counselling - which I understand you are already doing, so make sure you stick to it.*if you think it will help then dont be ashamed to ask for some medication. It doesnt mean it has to be forever or that you will have to take something addictive. If it helps you out of the rut then thats whats needed.*Cognitive behavioural therapy - every day write down 5 GOOD things about the day. At the end of EVERY week stick them up on a board and then go and buy/do something for yourself. Give yourself a little treat like a long bubble bath, pedicure, favourite choccy bar, new lipstick etc.* excercise - actually the hardest thing to do, but the MOST effective. Go out, EVERY DAY for a half hour brisk walk and get your heart pumping. Even if your having a day that says "I want to hide in bed".* everytime something seems to be getting on top of you (like worrying about the christmas trip), then mentally repeat all the wonderful things you know you will do when you get there. *if everything has already got on top of you, then bolt outside (even if its freezing and raining) for some fresh air for 10 mintues. Take a mini break out, go for another walk or just sit outside and try to control your breathing. Hope some of this helps. I suffered from terrible depression and PTSD for 6 years, finally I saw a doctor who understood.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 November 2011):
 This is the way you feel when you suffer from depression. It is good that you went to seek help, but if you are still feeling low well then you should talk to your counsellor about different options. Maybe go back to your doctor to discuss treatment further. As for the anxiety well make sure that you tell him and your counsellor about it. Make sure you leave nothing out.
anxiety can take over your life. You just need to try and think positive, whenever you feel negative about things write down all the positives about it and keep looking over it. For example write down all the positive things that could be achieved from getting a job and keep looking over them and try not to think of your worries about the negative. Same goes for going away at christmas and any other obstacles you find in your way. It will help you look at things from a positive side.
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