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writes:I am feeling a bit down coz I did something I don't think I should have but I don't regret it! I went out with my boyfriend (16 + I am 16 too) a day ago and we decided to drink.. I am a lightweight, I don't even have to drink much to get pissed!! Anyway I got pissed and ended up doing things I haven't before! I gave him blow job! I am a bit shocked because I am not like that to just go out and do that, not even when I am sober! A lot more happened. I am still a virgin thank god! Ii hate feeling upset. What's done is done, I don't really have a problem with what happened. He's so nice and mature we talk about everything openly even sex, and we both decided not to play around...! but what is wrong with me? I feel so bad!
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reader, getsomg  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 it happen to me before but the difference is i am 19 , he is 21 and i am not a virgin just we've only dated for three months and havnt have sex. what you feel is shame , it is hard for you to look him in the face because you guys havnt practiced anything like that before in your relationship. if he doesnt say anything about it ,you might as well try to act like it never happen or act like you was under the influence of alcohol. even if he ended up talking about it later just joke and laugh about it saying "do you know how much i was blinded by the alcohol and your love, i'd do anything to pleasure you."
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reader, shadowre +, writes (19 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the question You're right. You make alot of sense!!! and it was my first time but I gave him a blowjob again last week and I am cool with it now. It was my first time and I was worried if it was slutty or whatever but I am totally cool with it now. thanx for all the advice everyone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Yeah, you probably feel guilty, is it because maybe this is the first time you ever gave a blowjob? It is not a dirty slut act, lots of girls do this for their boyfriend or even just guys they like or guys that are their friends. Also, I love licking my girlfriend's vagina, and she has an orgasm every time I do it. I know it is pleasing her, so that's why I love doing it.
I think once you have a steady boyfriend that you really like and care for and he feels the same way about you, sex, including oral sex, will be part of a satisfying relationship. Again, what you did is completely normal, so just enjoy it the next time you do it and know that what you are doing is something girls and women of all ages and types do for the men in their lives.
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reader, shadowre +, writes (19 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, one thing, i dont really have any close female friends coz i think girls are such bitchs and i dont really get on with them, i mostly get on with boys. the friends i do talk to it about think its dirty. and the girls that do give BJs are normaly sluts so you can understand why i feel guilty are sluty!! but thanx for the advice! your right i have to just get over it and face the fact that it is normal and not a dirty sluty act!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): What you did is perfectly normal. Lots of women love giving blowjobs. There is nothing wrong with that. It is somewhat normal to feel guilty about it, but that may be because of what your parents, teachers or others said about not having sex at your age.
But you should not feel it was bad or wrong for you to do this. It is something natural that happens when two people are atracted to each other. It's normal that you did this for your boyfriend.
You need to get over the guilt feelings at some point in order to have a healthy sexual relationship if you decide to get married. You don't want to feel guilty or that you did something dirty or wrong every time you have sex. Talk to your girlfriends or other girls your age about this, and I think you will be surprised at how many girls give their BFs blowjobs and enjoy doing that, and even feel good about it. You will need to deal with the feeling you have that you did something wrong, when in fact you did something completely normal, so that this doesn't hurt your ability to have a fulfilling sex life when you are older.
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reader, shadowre +, writes (12 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice! iam definatly not going to drink to much around him again!we've talked about it anyway, he sed i dont have to do anything i dont want but we have decided to continue but no sex! not until were both ready! thanks :)
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (8 March 2008):
 Don't beat yourself up over this-lots of women give their guys blow-jobs. See, the problem with women is this- the things that men do and are okay with, women do these things and hide them and talk about how gross those things are to their friends. No one wants to appear like a slut in the woman world. You're not a slut. I still don't understand how you being pissed would make you want to give someone a blow-job. But if you still feel bad about this-go easy on the alcohol in the future, or have none at all. And remember, we all make mistakes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Now you know why many people do not drink! Don't beat yourself up over this, but make sure it's a lesson learned.
From now on, I wouldn't drink any beer or alcohol. If they won't accept me as a friend because I won't drink, then they are not truly my friends.
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reader, beenthereandunit  +, writes (7 March 2008):
First off, don't feel hard on your self. Learn from the situation and put it down to experience. Remember,alcohol makes your normal senses take a back seat and causes you to do things that you wouldn't normally do. The world is full of women who had one too many and are paying the price for it.
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reader, Dimithri  +, writes (7 March 2008):
 you don't need to feel bad coz you gave your boyfriend a blowjob! it's just natural in a relationship, and even if you feel bad, you were drunk. as you said, you're still a virgin, your boyfriend didn't try to take advantage of you even when you were drunk. so don't feel bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Drink makes us think we have no inhabitions and we do things and say things we wouldn't normally do when we are sober.
You haven't done anything wrong here. There's no reason to be feeling down. It could be the effect of the drink that is causing you to feel this way too. It has that sort of affect on some people.
Just put it down to experience and dont' drink as much the next time if you feel this way now :)
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reader, lifecycle +, writes (7 March 2008):
You sound like your both very mature by talking about things and feeling comfortable with it. You probably just feel wierd at it was the first time, and you'd had a drink so I guess looking back at it might feel a little strange.
Remember that you've done nothing wrong, and that he *is* your boyfriend so its all good. He probably feels a little strange as well, but if you decide to carry on with this sort of thing, it will get more *normal* as time passes. Hopefully more fun too!
Take care
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reader, Jmo +, writes (7 March 2008):
 I agree with LJ001. And hey, at least it was your boyfriend and not someone else, don't beat yourself up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): You were drunk, so this can make up for it really. You haven't done anything wrong or bad, you're still a virgin as you say. I'm sure he understands why you were more liable to give him a blowjob (because you were drunk) and I'm sure he wouldnt mind if you decide not to give him another one in the near future. You havent made an irreversible mistake, so count yourself lucky that nothing worse happened. Honestly, you shouldnt feel bad :]
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