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writes:Hi!,So, I have been in love with this girl who became my best friend (I am male) after over half a year, and I suspected that she may have feelings for me too but because of past pains she is reluctant to, I guess let them surface. Recently we have been getting very physically close and I have admitted (drunkenly) in the past the depth of my feelings for her, and she has made hints about it.My relationship with her felt like we were 'together', but all without the actual acknowledgement and without physical intimacy.And then just the other week we started sleeping together and it has been great, we have been getting more emotionally close as well.And then, now comes MY problem. We are both quite emotionally fragile people, (I suspect her of slight depression, and I have been diagnosed for depression before, being treated on and off)The other night after sex, she started to cry and doubt my love and believe that I would one day leave her and hurt her. She painted me as this amazing guy who pretty much was the one for her. And felt like she wasn't good enough for me and that I would one day realize this fact and leave her. Thing is that I fear the same from her but I also fear I could end up doing that too? and for some reason, i'm not sure why, now i feel like my feelings have been put on hold, maybe i'm amprehended by the severity of her doubt? Or smothered by her confession?What do you guys think it is...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhmm that might make a bit more sense at the moment.
thanks for that!
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reader, Objectivist Thinker  +, writes (5 September 2009):
It could be a sign she wasn't ready for sex. She may be feeling like she's lost something (which is normal), and placing it wrongly. You have to make sure she knows you are sincere, and tell her this, if you truly are. You could just be worried she thinks you aren't being true to her, or, as you say, maybe she overwhelmed you by telling you she feels overwhelmed by you.
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