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26-29,
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writes:Last year, my friend and my boyfriend got really close together, going out together, texting each other spontaneously, playfully touching each other in front of me, to a point where I felt like crap and like any other human being, I felt a sting of jealousy because I hardly have any guy friends and I thought it was disrespectful to be with guy friends alone etc. without him knowing I was with them or being there. I didn't tell them about my feelings then because I felt like I would break their friendship apart, and I would rather have them as friends than enemies.Six months later, I broke down and couldn't hold it in anymore, I told them about how I felt. Don't get me wrong, I trust them both but I just felt like they both didn't respect me that much, or didn't even think of how I felt about it. Me and my friend are really close, and I can tell her everything except for how I felt, at least I thought I was able to. When I did, she got angry at me because she felt like I was preventing them to be friends, she didn't seem to understand how I felt and just..judged me then and there, telling my other friend (who sided with her) how selfish I was and when my boyfriend found out, he was ashamed and immediately cut off communications with her, ignoring her, thinking it was the best solution. Later on, she claimed that she is never going to talk to him again, because I am getting hurt.Now, I have forgiven my boyfriend but I am afraid to fall in love again, because I was hurt for so long that the possibilities of it happening again scares me...He says there is nothing to be afraid of, that I should trust him and not worry because he won't let it happen again..I don't know whether being with him again will make things worse or not.but as for my friend, due to her reaction, I don't know whether to forgive her, I mean I am really willing to but I just find it so difficult, even though I have tried to patch their friendship plenty of times, stirring problems in my relationship with my boyfriend, he doesn't want to risk losing me again, so he refuses to cooperate.I am not willing to let anyone go...I know I don't have the courage to do that but slowly my friend and I are drifting apart...So in short:My boyfriend and friend being friends might or might not bother me in the future, it wasn't their friendship that disturbed me emotionally, just how they were acting around me. I tried to explain that to them, but they are acting as if they are the ones who broke up and it's hurting me to see them like this...and it's hurting me to see them together...What should I do??
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reader, jones15  +, writes (6 September 2009):
 personally i tell him how you feel and if he cant respect that then bugger him off! and as 4 your mate she should know better.good luck!
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