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anonymous
writes:I dont understand why but if any guy gives me any kind of attention i seem to fall at their feet. I'm not the kind of girl that goes for looks, i always prefer personality. And i know this mind sound big headed but i'm not some terrible looking girl who never attracts guys. I'm slim, work out and regularly told i'm pretty. On nights out guys always come up to me yet im rarely interested. However if a guy that i get on well with gives me any kind of attention i seem to fall head over heals instantly! For example i recently fell for a guy at work after only going on two dates! I havent spoken to him since saturday and im going out of my mind! I cant stop thinking about him! And i'm so upset!I've only been in one long term relationship which lasted six years and other than this have just dated people.I just want to know why i feel like this instantly and how can i stop? its making me really upset and depressed when things dont work out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2013): Maybe your just attracted to them but not really fall for them. Sometimes we mistaken attraction to falling in love.
Its a strong word.
Its just your imagination. What you should do is just lighten up a bit and use your looks for a good cause.
Since attracting guys is not a problem for you, therefore I suggest for you to keep your options open.
If you happen to be badly attracted to one particular guy and you just met him, try your very best to get him out of your head.
HOW?
1. tell to yourself, you just met him. what if his a player or a jerk. so you should have a clear head about it.
2. convince yourself its not love. just attraction. maybe his cute and smart. nothing beats a good conversation.
3. Tell to yourself, I should not be the one who should fall for him, it should be him to ME. tell it yourself again and again. why? its foolish to fall for someone you just met.
4. Divert your attention to other things. don't tell any of your friend about him. the more you talk about him, the more you will think its LOVE.
Then picture him naked. joke.
try to imagine all of his flaws.
even if he doesn't have any.
Just use your imagination.
Most of all tell to yourself, Its crazy to fall for someone so quickly.
So i have to stop this uninvited feelings for him.
well, i hope it helps you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 August 2013):
 My first thought is low self esteem. There are a million books out there that deal with that vey issue.
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