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writes:I have been together with the boyf for a year now. We have talked about how many kids we want and names we like and wedding day ideas. It's fun conversation, nothing too deep! However this past couple of weeks, he asked me to remind him whether I was 28 or 29 years, il forgive him this once haha. Anyway, I'm 29, and he's been joking about my biological clock ticking! He's a nice guy and wouldn't intentionally emotionally abuse me or anything, he just likes to joke around. I've just been telling him: we'll your two years older than me that makes you ancient! But he says he's got all the time he needs! It's been mentioned a few times now though and maybe I'm being over sensitive but he's going to start freaking me out thinking I'm too old for him or start me thinking that I'm gonna have to have Babies ASAP! On another note, we are going to a festival this weekend... I'm on the pill but my period was two days late... He mentioned that I might be pregnant and should stay off the alcohol until I find out! (Jokingly said again) What's he getting at??
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2013): I have several friends who waited until their mid to late 30s to have kids. it's not as impossible as people seem to think. you have plenty of time....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2013): Hi I'm the OP ... Yes he says that he wants kids but he also said that he wanted to be married awhile before kids, and were not even engaged, thorough we both agree on a short engagement and elopement and to celebrate with a party after... I don't believe in spending so much money in one day and he agrees. I know he's planning on setting up a business so I figured kids wouldn't happen for a few years! And he really is encouraging me to clear my debts As soon as possible. I don't see marriage - I don't think he would either - until then! But we both want the same things so that's good... I like if that is his reason, it's a positive thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2013): He sounds like he's trying to gauge your reaction about what your thoughts regarding kids.
When he makes the joke again. Flippantly ask him if he's suggesting you start trying for kids. He'll probably say he's been thinking about it. So like Aunty Babbit said, have a think about where you stand on the issue at the moment. He sounds ready :-)
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (20 August 2013):
 I was a midwife for 18 years and sweetie when your biological clock starts ticking you'll know!
I can't help thinking that your boyfriend is feeling broody and is worried about your reaction to this. His attitude to your period be a little late and not drinking in case you are says loudly to me that he's in that zone and cool with it he doesn't appear to be in the least freaked out.
How do you feel about starting a family? Think about it, decide where you feel kids figure in your life and talk to him about his comments and decide together what to do.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 August 2013):
 Ask him...?
Sounds like you need to have a talk with him about his jokes, and maybe you want them to mean something more? Maybe next time he jokes, ask him "And what are you going to do about it"?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2013): It sounds to me like he wants to have kids with you soon. What do you think about it?
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