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writes:i have been in a relationship for 3yrs and i have cheated on him two times!! he knows about the first one (all we did was kiss). but the second one was more than once and a bit further. i love my boyfriend to bits! but i cant stop my self.. whats up with me ?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): Because wanting sexual variety is OK and natural, and loyalty doesn't always HAVE TO equal sexual exclusivity. My partner and I have an open relationship because she feels (and I feel) that monogamy is a prison and an artificial construct. It's not for everyone. Neither is an open relationship for everyone. Get in touch with yourself, find out what you like and what arrangement would make you thrive. Check out the term "polyamory" or "open relationships" on wikipedia and see how healthy they can be. Of course, lots of people are so brainwashed into monogamy being the "only way or the highway" that the thought of something different makes their brains have a meltdown, but be open. Just follow you heart, and your sexuality and body are a big part of life too. It's not bad, but I will say that poor communication and self-knowledge of that stickly issue of "what it is you REALLY want" is not positive. Dare to bring up at least the concept of having permission with him, but learn more first. When my girlfriend is with other guys, I'm just turned on and celebrate her sexuality as she does mine. it's not utopia and every kind of relationship, whether you are rocking the awesome monogamy, or rocking the world of ethical-open-relationships -- it's all about trust and communucation and honesty -- just like anything.
Sorry so long-winded.
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reader, castilno101  +, writes (3 November 2008):
You can love your bf to bits but maybe you're cheating because you find things on other guys that you don't find on your bf, or maybe it is because you know you are secured and you feel he's not ever gonna leave you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): I can definitely say one thing from what you have written.You are 'NOT' in love with him.If you do you wouldn't cheat on him.Time for facing bare facts.
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reader, dart318 +, writes (3 November 2008):
your still young i wouldnt let that bother you
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