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writes: my bf and i have been together for almost 3 years now and we get along well and have a lot in common, but i am so frustrated because i have to do practically all the work when it comes to going out and socializing. if i dont suggest we go out or do something we'll just end up staying home all the time doing nothing and he is fine with doing nothing but i enjoy going out and meeting new people and enjoy a fast-paced life but he mostly 'just wants to relax' all the time. i'm just tired of being the 'man' in the relationship and wish he would take the lead. i have even spoken to him about it but it hasn't helped. how do i turn this situation around? Reply to this Question
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (22 June 2009):
 Everyones different! Some people do enjoy the simple relaxing life whereas others want to constantly be doing new things and enjoying what the world has to offer! You've just clashed with someone who is the opposite of you. Just talk to him and tell him that you need some adventure and you want to do more, thats what i did with my boyfriend and now we do something different every day off! If he works then im sure on the time he gets off hes just tired, but inject some energy into him! Think of something fun to do, drag him out of the house and go! Theres nothing wrong with you using your adventorous side to decide on places to go, if he doesnt have it in him then you do it and make him come along for the ride!
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reader, starfairy +, writes (22 June 2009):
 My boyfriend is the same - whenever he does ask if we want to go out, healways expects me to suggest where and when etc!
We had a big talk about it and I told him I was getting bored in our relationship, if he had it his way we'd sit in all the time. When he saw how unhappy I was becoming, he's made more of an effort to suggest things to do, so you just need to stress to your boyfriend that the boredom will kill the relationship!
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