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writes:I Need Your Help, Please! Okay, this might take a very very long time to type up but here goes. I have been dating my boyfriend for around a year and 6 months now, but we have always been particularly close for the past 5 years. But, he was pretty nasty to me before we dated as he constantly called me names like "whore" and made me feel unwelcome around my own friends cause ha made fun of me when we hung around with them in the past. Because of this, i hung around with another guy who i was friends with at the time and we got very close, but when my boyfriend asked me out, i was a bitch and just left him behind, even though he had became like my best friend. A while into dating my boyfriend and my best friend told me he loved me and always had, i was so confused and didnt know what to do!For the whole time since then things have been shit, my best friend said he was going to kill himself, we constantly had fights and we had one two months ago that was so huge hes only started talking to me again now. Hes now taking drugs and i feel so guilty! Its all my fault. But at the same time i love my boyfriend and don't want to hurt him. He always says my best friend treats me like shit, but my best friend says my boyfriend did in the past too. My best friend thinks deep down i love him, is this why i always go crawling back when we fall out? im just so confused, please dont think bad of me! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): i have been in such a similar situation. instead of going into detail about it. ill just say that in the end i stayed with my boyfriend. yes it hurt to lose the friend but the friend should have stepped up when he had the chance. you go crawling back because you have feelings for both of them and you figure when one of them is bad to you, that you can just run to the other, so you always have a back up. i felt like that forever and it got me no where. its much better to focus on just one relationship than two. and the longer it goes on the more it hurts. just pick the one you care about the most and see yourself being the happiest with. goodluck hope it works out.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 The classic love triangle. You need to think seriously about what you want or who you want. I'ts not y our fault one of the guys is on drugs, that's his choice. Distance yourself from both these guys. You will get yourself in a knot if you don't know what you really want. You don't want to be going backwards and forwards with them. Try to find out which one you want a relationship with, let the other one know to keep their distance because you can't cope with the trauma of it all. Hope this helps.
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