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writes:What does this mean? This guy playfully teases me but he only does it in the presence of others, mainly men. Alone he's nice. I find some of it funny. He says stuff like it's raining outside it's your fault don't know why, he's obviously joking because he says it with a smile but I sense a little hostility. I was quiet for a bit and he said are you actually doing any work over there, I noticed how he said this nasty comment in front of a man we work with and even he said that was nasty. I don't get it, does he find me attractive? He seemed excited to see me. If he doesn't find me attractive what would be the point in saying these things? Why do guys tease women they find attractive? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (30 April 2014):
 He's attention seeking, trying to impress his male friends and it may even be his way of flirting with you. Either way give him a wide birth!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2014): It wasn't as bad as some guys, I think he sensed he had put his foot in it. I've never really understood banter. I know others will disagree but it always seems that when couples do it its because they secretly don't like each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2014):
when he says are you actually doing any work over there, reply with a laugh ' MORE THAN YOU '
when he sayings it your fault its raining, that's not a compliment .. sorry but then Im Scottish .. I would reply no it only starts raining when I see you ..
he is being nasty .. who wants a nasty dude like that to like her .. hellooo? anyone in ..
your worth more than that and if he speaks to you like that again draw him up by his socks .. say are you talking to me, as your tone is off.. sounded rather nasty.. haha
you are not a mat, don't let him print welcome on your forehead or he will be soon wiping his feet
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 April 2014):
 Seems to me that SOME men never outgrow the play-ground. Remember how ADULTS would tell a little girl that if a boy pulled her pigtail it was because he LIKED her...?
Well, some guys STILL do that in their 30's and 40's...
The fact that he does it in front of other men, he is either trying to show "dominance" or " pissing off his territory" (that being YOU) to the other guys.
And SOME women think it's "cute" or "OK". It's not.
I'd leave this one be. Ignore him when he is being a jerk. Don't feed the "troll" so to speak.
Since it's the work place I'd just go about my business and be professional.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2014): I'm not his type physically from what I've seen on his Facebook.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (28 April 2014):
 I say things like 'have you been singing cos its raining again', it's purely workplace banter, doesn't mean I find the person attractive.
How does he seem excited to see you? Do you find him attractive and if so, do you flirt and show it - maybe he would make a move if you did.
Personally I don't think work is the place for romance but that's up to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2014): Men in general like to act big and tough in front of their friends. It feeds their ego. This guy being romantic and honest with his feelings, if he does find you attractive, won't win him any points with his male friends - if his friends are just as immature as him. His friends are probably the type to tease him if he is nice and respectful to women.
They want to maintain this "cool" front (to guys with immature mentalities like this one "cool" equals acting like a jerk).
I suggest that you don't give him the time of day. It'll only validate his behavior.
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reader, llifton +, writes (28 April 2014):
 It's because they're still stuck in the kindergarten phase where you tease and are mean to the girls you like. I know a handful of guys like this. They wind up pissing the girl off more than anything. Lol.
Sounds like he may like you. But he sounds like he's going about it in a very bad way. That's my two cents.
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