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writes: How come it seems that guys who didn't used to be so great looking back when they were younger, most the time end up looking really attractive when they get older? Because my brother turned 23 and celebrated with a party and all his friends he hadn't seen in ages. I remembered most of them when they were in school and used to come round ours at aged 16/17 and looks wise they were alright, i never really took notice... But now seeing some them at 22-24 they look so different, they've changed into very, very attractive guys!! I mean i'm good friends with this guy who doesn't look at all like the same kid from his younger days! His 19 now and is really good looking. So i don't doubt he'll be even more attractive in his 20's... Is this the case, do men usually look better with age and is it the norm that the guys who aren't that good looking when their younger end up looking great when they're older!? I can't rack my brain how this happens... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): A few years ago you were probably only in your mid teens and it's not like you are going to always be looking through those lenses. Right now, a 45 year old man may not float your boat but 30 years from now you'll think men in this age group are the hottest thing on the market. Since your 18-21 years, it's only natural to think 23 year old guys look better than 14 year old ones. 10 years from now you'll want men in their thirties. Think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): I am 35 and I can tell you that older men are not more attractive, lol. You're talking about 22-24, which are prime years and peak of attractiveness. Most men start to bald and get fat as they get older. There are some people that age very well, but for the most part, we all become less attractive as we age. It's part of life.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Keep in mind that men and women are programmed by evolution to find certain features attractive. What men find attractive in women is the whole set of indicators of youth and fertility - what we think of as being hot is in fact just a number of physical signs of fertility. What women find attractive in men is their ability to protect and provide, which has a physical component, but is much more a matter of how they think and act - not to mention it tends to increase with age.
It's largely in their demeanor, how men carry themselves, how they act and speak. These guys have had a chance to build their confidence, to learn how to carry themselves, and to interact with girls without being nervous. Some of them have decent jobs or college degrees, and they know that makes them more "valuable," for lack of a better word. They've faced more challenges and learned their strengths and weaknesses. They stand up straighter, speak slower and with more confidence, have more life experiences (or are better at acting like they do), and don't care so much anymore about what any particular girl thinks of them. Not to mention a lot of them have gotten into better shape.
Everything I've seen suggests this pattern continues until a man is well into his 40's; so long as he continues to grow and take care of himself rather than letting himself go, a man can just get more and more attractive - because the things that women find attractive can get better with age.
So it's mostly that the things you care about in men are improving.
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