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writes:Why every girls hate emotional guys? Why they look for robot in guys? Would anyone like to guide me on this? Zahir,Pakistan Reply to this Question
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reader, Zahir_is_burning +, writes (8 October 2009):
Zahir_is_burning is verified as being by the original poster of the question hahahahah. footballar. im sportsman as well. i play hockey, cricket and soccer. but i have this tendency of getting panicked quickly plus get broken into tears in no time when see something painful happening around me. my ex-girlfriend didn't like me for the way i used to walk and my dressing sense doesn't make sense according to her. she thought i always look angry as if there was lesser in my eyes..lol. but i have the strong believe that when u love someone u love them for their strong and weak points. she had countless weakness but i used to still love her as diversity is the beauty of life. it's this thing of having weak and strong points in our personality that makes us human beings otherwise we would have been angels . she did like my wacky sense of humour but she used to make fun of my poor financial position which i didnt take it personally thinking she might be doing that just to have some fun going with me. now i wana change myself . i want to look stronger in front of girls . i want to be fake now like rest of the urban guys around me because i get the feeling that this world is not for toooooooo nice people like me. i want to be street smart!
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reader, princessjasmine  +, writes (29 September 2009):
Hey zahir,Im pakistani too, but born and raised in America. I might help you out with this one because I know both sides! Here's the deal: Pakistani guys think they are bollywood film stars, STOP THINKING THAT! Bollywood men are so emotional its disgusting, we dont like that at all! You're not a manly man if you show so much emotion and dramaIts like those emotional Atif Aslam songs, it's just too much. You know how you like chasing a girl? sometimes girls like to chase too! We like a man who can be a challenge for us, someone who shows he doesn't care but then he does. That makes it exciting, but Pakistani guys come off as being desperate and in need of a girl, stop doing that. And start just being real with yourself, talk to girls as friends and see if u like her, tell her how u feel, share your feelings and emotions but dont think your a film star who has to make everything all dramatic and it looks fake and silly, a LOT of pakistani men do it. We dont want a robot, we just want someone who isnt learning things from bollywood. We want someone who is being REAL and HONEST and NOT melodramatic!Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): sweetness, you are definitely with the wrong girl.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2009):
Girls seem to like guys that are in control of their lives, but at the same time can listen and be sympathetic. Manly, with a senstive side. This means no puddles of tears and such, but also not zombies. Just be confident and in control, but if a woman wants to talk to you, listen to her, or if she wants you to talk to her, open up.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (29 September 2009):
 I don't know any women who like men with no feelings. We generally do not like men who are "emotional puddles" or are overly emotional.
To help more, I would need more details. Do you have a scenario you'd like to put forward so we can understand better what you are talking about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): i prefer emotional boys
not every girl is like that
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (29 September 2009):
 Wait a minute, I thought that us girls loved emotional guys! Which, by the way, we really do! (Unless they turn into raving emotional lunatics - nobody likes that, in men or in women). Where exactly are you finding these robot-loving women, anyway?? I see that your country flag is Pakistan. I have never known any Pakistani women so maybe it is not a good idea to compare myself to a Pakistani woman. This is just a guess, but maybe in your culture an emotional man is seen as a sign of weakness? Maybe in your culture girls are taught to value strength in men, more than the depth of their emotion? All I know about Pakistan really, is that it is a much more traditional culture than the United States, so maybe girls there are taught to value other things that girls in the West.
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reader, MissMollie +, writes (29 September 2009):
Hello Zahir,
I being a girl myself personally love a boy who can show his emotion, girls who look for boys who pick fights for no reason are ridiculous.
Most girls don't go for emotional boys because they are afraid what there friends will think if they choose say a footballer over a guy like yourself. Girls are very much infuluenced over their friends and it is a shame but eventually you will find that one girl who stands out from the crowd and is not afraid to say how she feels.
I hope i helped, write back if you wish.
Mollie.
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