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writes:Well i have noticed this recently, it's not only happened to me but to others. Well i noticed that when a girl likes a guy she does everything to ignore him and get away from him, even when the guy just passes her and says hello, the girl doesnt even look back or anything. Well another issue is when the guy is in the same room the girl will flirt with just about any other guy that gives her attention and she gives no attention to the guy she likes. I also have another issue is that why would a girl do these things does she not know that by doing and acting this way she is pushing the guy away?This is strange to me that girls do not know or they do, what they are doing to the guy they like. I'am only asking because me and friends talk about this all the time and it happens to almost all of us, yet in the end we end up with the girl we like. I'm not complaining because when this happens we usually know that the girl is ours, but what do you girls think? why do this? In my opinion if you are flirting with another guy, it kinda turns us off, so stop doing this lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2012): OP there are tonnes of reasons really.
First off crushes hurt that's why they call it a crush, it hurts to see a person you want but think you can't have, it aches to be in their presence and want them that way. That's more than enough reason to want to get over them and you don't get over a crush by indulging it by talking to them.
Secondly a crush can make people nervous and makes talking to them very difficult because your very paranoid about saying the wrong thing or becoming tongue tied. Plus you also try to be careful not to be seen to be flirting with them because the most horrible thing, especially for a girl, is that someone may actually say something to that person about you liking them and again make things awkward and complicated, which also explains why they would flirt with others to try and deflect the attention away from people figuring that out.
Of course it is also a means of testing that person, if a person gets a bit jealous while your flirting with another then that can be a sign that they like you.
Life would be a lot easier if people were just up front about things and acted on their feelings instead of letting them build but feelings have a funny way of overriding your capacity for reason and make your actions emotionally based and irrational.
At the end of the day OP all their behaviour is, is a means of self protection, crushes hurt as a matter of course and they're based mainly on fear of rejection by the object 0of their desires.
Let them off, it's kind of understandable and if you think a girl has a crush on you and you like her just make the move and get her. If the object of her desires is someone else and he's a friend then just tell him to go get her. Simple, no big deal.
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reader, Presario2010 +, writes (31 July 2012):
Presario2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes i agree with your posts, but no i actually have dated several womoen with diffrent oersonalites and they all seem to do this, maybe it an age thing, i think you may be right...... also i now when girls are doing this but you know it still hurts when they do it... yes i'am also guilty of doing this myself, so i can see how a girl would do this, i guess it's just instinct
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 July 2012):
 Uh, well, guys do this to just so you know. Especially teenage boys and girls, or shy/lacking confidence boys and girls who haven't learned how to socialize/flirt.
Not ALL do this. But some do, I know. When I tell other people how to flirt, or how to notice when someone likes you, this is one of the things I've mentioned. That the one who likes you is the one who stays away from you, and avoids you.
It contradicts itself, but on the other hand it is logical. The one you like is the one who has the potential to break your heart. You could get hurt. So to avoid disappointment, or a broken heart, you avoid the person.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (31 July 2012):
 The only girls I know who do this are the most immature ones. You seem to be picking the immature girls who don't know how to actually talk to a guy they like.
The logic these girls use when they do this is that they want to make you jealous and notice that they are wanted by guys other than you. They ignore you because they want you to chase after them.
It's a huge self-centered game.
I'd say rethink your taste in women.
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