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writes: Why do i find in most cases that when things come to revealing true feelings, girls expect the guy to make the first move. In several cases where i have been quite close to girl and made my interest in them quite clear, i have found that the girl would never come to me and say 'i love you' or 'i need you', even if it means that i move on and she may never be able to have me again. Is it like girls want to love the one who loves them first?
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (19 February 2007):
 Everybody is afraid of getting rejected, but girls have an excellent excuse for not doing the first move. Somewhen during their formative years, they pick up the idea that "it's the guy's job to make the first move".
Who brings the flowers in the Hollywood movies? The guy.
Who rescues the heroine? The guy.
Who pops the marriage question? The guy.
In literature, in movies, in art, the woman is often pictured as passive. This of course is backed up by our history as well, but one would think that in such an age where women have professions, where we choose by ourselves whom we want to marry, we might also get rid of our fear of rejection and ask a guy out...
Recently, the secretary at my job complained that she was bummed with her boyfriend for not raising the topic of marriage. So I asked her "why don't you ask her yourself?" to which she replied "but it's the guys job!".
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