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41-50,
*ozymare25
writes:Why do blokes ask for your number after one night stand then never get in touch?I meet this lovely bloke the other night and i ended up going back to his (i was quite drunk). We got on really well and the sex was great during the night but not so great the next morning. Usually if i go back to some blokes house i get ushered out the door asap but i stayed till late afternoon then he offered to give me lift home. We had a laugh in the morning and it didn't feel awkward. Didn't expect him to take my number but he did. But he never texted or phoned. It doesn't usually bother me if they don't phone as sex is sex but there was something abut this bloke i really liked. Do you think he took my number just to be polite?
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reader, dozymare25 +, writes (13 May 2009):
dozymare25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your answers. Just thought i'd let u know that he got in touch & we're meeting up on fri.
He's definitely not a rebound as i have had plenty since my relationship broke up. I never get like this over a guy as i'm an indepentent person who knows a guy isn't the most important thing to have in my life & not interested in a relationship at the moment.
Well we'll see how it goes as there was just something about this bloke...could not get him off my mind. Wish me luck xx
ps. i always have safe fun but not tried ribbed... i'll give them a try, lol
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 May 2009):
Ah, that makes much more sense.
This is your rebound guy.
It's easy to go out and have great sex and you are remaining completely detatched by it.
But this is the first guy who's been nice to you and since you are EMOTIONALLY a bit vulnerable from the relationship break up it's thrown you for 6.
My advice to you is to accept that this guy is in your head because your brain has made him into a nice little fantasy of the guy you WANT him to be so you can fall in love and be loved.
Keep him as a nice fantasy until you are ready to find a real boyfriend again.
But just be careful and have some well protected fun till then. Condoms should be your best friend... especially ribbed ones!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, dozymare25 +, writes (12 May 2009):
dozymare25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGirls I know what your saying I'm not stupid. I enjoy sex and I'm not looking for a relationship as recently came out of 7 yr relationship. I'm just enjoying being single but i can't seem to get this guy out of my head...which isn't like me. I was surprised he took my number & also offered me a lift home as most guys wouldn't. I'm not even sure why I asked the question as I knew what the answer was going to be...but i can't stop thinking about him.
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (11 May 2009):
 If you give it away to easy, lads will rarely stick around. All guys are different, he was obviously a nice polite guy and maybe even a nice boyfriend, but getting down to it when youve just met is showing him signs that this could be all you want from him, not anything else. Its rare lads call back, though it does happen and they fall in love ect ect. Just dont wait by the phone, theres plenty more fish in the sea, and one night stands. x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 May 2009):
Because
a) he was not used to one night stands and therefore was acting a bit more like a boyfriend then normal one night stands
b) he took your number then met someone who wanted a boyfriend rather than a quick shag so deleted your number
c) realised that you just wanted sex and that's why you had sex with him so quickly
d) will call you up in a couple of months when he fancies a shag.
If you want a boyfriend then don't have sex with them so quickly. If you want a quick night of fun with many condoms in your bag then go for it but don't be surprised when this happens.
Good Luck!! xx
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