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female
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30-35,
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writes:Why do a lot of guys like and go for really easy and slutty women?The reason I ask this is because even though I'm a woman myself, I've had bad experiences with these types of women.The current situation I'm in is really annoying me. There is this woman, I'll call her A, who is known by everyone to be this slut and home wrecker. I have 3 friends who have all been cheated on with A. I myself was with a guy a long time ago who cheated on me then dropped me to be with A. She then cheated on him and he wanted to get back with me, I said no of course. He's told me they're sex buddies now. Anyways, I have a really great boyfriend now who has been my only serious and long term relationship. And well, A knows and has dated a majority of his friends. I knew for a fact my boyfriend would end up meeting A because some how she knows almost every single guy in the town.I felt sick to my stomach when I saw my boyfriend talking to A online a few nights ago. He then told me this "Hey you know that slutty girl, well she was flirting with me like crazy last night." I didn't know what to say about it. I actually don't know one guy who hasn't dated her or had a sexual relationship with her. I can't seem to avoid this girl because she is everywhere. But that's not the point.I guess my questions are in regards to my current relationship now. Please give me the honest truth. Do you think my boyfriend will end up cheating on me with A? Am I just being insecure? I am worried that I'm going to lose my boyfriend over this. I'm sick of this girl.I mean I've been cheated on with her before, 3 of my friends have been cheated on with her. She has given me a great deal of hurt here. I don't know why she has to get involved with my relationships in the first place. Why do a lot of guys get involved with her when they call her easy and slutty behind her back?
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (14 May 2013):
 Girls like "A" are very insecure and they need all of the attention on themselves because it makes them feel better for about five seconds before reality sets in. Guys like girls that are easy and slutty, because they are easy and slutty. I had the same fears when I met my boyfriend.
I had a lot of trust issues and I was scared to death of him going out to the bar without me because I wasn't old enough to go too. We've been together for five years and we have two children together. He has shown me time and time again that I can trust him. He always tells me about him getting hit on and he usually laughs about it.
Your boyfriend told you,"Hey you know that slutty girl, well she was flirting with me like crazy last night." That right there tells me he more than likely won't do anything with her.
Have you talked to him about this? The way you're talking to us? Communication is very important. Be open and honest. He'll appreciate it more than words. It took awhile but my bf was very patient and understanding. I trust him. He has never once lied to me. Just be honest with your boyfriend and if he is a keeper, he'll listen and reassure you.
Good luck. Women like "A" never find a real man. They always find the stupid little boys who just use women like that and toss her aside.
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (13 May 2013):
 I’m actually wondering how is it you know these guys who cheated and dated etc with A. Do you all live in a small community or in a neighbourhood where people like that exist, because that would explain why you can’t be rid of her? She and those guys alike are the towns’ trash – sad to say :( And how was it that A was online flirting away with your boyfriend? It takes 2 people to flirt like crazy doesn’t it? How could it be a one way conversation? Plus he would have heard the trash stories about her to know better than to talk to her!? Goodness gracious, even the majority of his friends have dated A… For me, I don’t like the sound of his flirting regardless and if he’s serious about you, he should have better things to do with his time and spend it with you! I also can’t speak highly for his friends as they all enjoyed A at one time or another!?Take Care – CAA
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2013): Tell you boyfriend what you just told us.
If he is a real man, he'll no how to say no. If he ends up cheating, than he still has a lot to learn, which makes sense considering your age.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (12 May 2013):
 HI
I don't think your BF will go there as he told you what she was up to and is not impressed. My only concern is why he would allow her to continue to flirt and not block her. She is obviously a desperate insecure woman herself, she craves attention from men because she has low self esteam, so sleeping around makes her think she is worth something when really she is not if she keeps doing this to herself and to everyone else. Don't go on about it with your BF unless you have good reason to , as this could PUSH him into her arms ( as in if you dont trust him and accuse him of wanting to be with her he will just to piss you off in the end) the old saying if im gonna be acused of something I haven't done I may aswell just do it.
Maybe next time ( if there is a next time) tell him you are not comfortable with him talking to her on line and would appreciate it if he blocked her. If he says no then well I would tell him to get lost, as it would seem he has other intentions.
Mandy x
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (12 May 2013):
 They "like" her because she's slutty and easy. Except they don't actually like or respect her.
Your fears are not necessarily justified but they are very understandable. Tell your boyfriend what happened with your previous relationship. If he has any respect for you, he will cut all contact and not chat with her online, ever. If he doesn't, them he doesn't have a whole lot of respect.
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