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writes:To all of you married men out there that have strayed - why did you do it?I had a brief sexual affair with a married coworker - a 2 night stand if you will - and am curious what it was that made him go there. I did not initiate it but I went along (I too am married and had my own reasons and that's not the point , thanks). Is it boredom in the marriage, excitement of the illicit stuff, what is it? What made you do it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): Never cheated, but the reasons vary tremendously.
Read a few books if you want to know.
The question isn't why men cheat, but why you cheated.
You don't need to tell anyone here, but you may not really know why you cheated.
"had my own reasons"
Yes, you did, but do you really understand the reasons, and are the reasons what you thought they were. Most people find that their reasons for cheating are a lot more complex than they understood.
Which is why it is useless to ask online why someone cheated, when almost all cheaters could fill a book with the background and substance of their life that led to their cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2011): Grass is always greener...... opportunity knocks.... don't look a gift horse in the mouth.... etc..etc... rarely for love, always for sex.
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reader, G_S +, writes (18 June 2011):
I believe MOSTLY that: Men cheat for more sex, more exciting sex, and/or a fanciful younger hotter woman. Women cheat for more romance, more exciting romance and attention, and/or a fanciful younger hot stud of a man. There are exceptions but basically men for sexual reasons, and women for relationship reasons.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (18 June 2011):
 I basically cheated on gf of mine years ago. It wasn't much but now I understand why it happened.
I think the main reason people cheat is because they are looking to fill in something that is missing from their current relationship. Some will cheat to replace sex. Mine was because I needed the romance and there was no passion in the relationship, she just expected me to be there. Another reason may be more emotional and that the person wants to feel loved such as they were in the past which they find with a new person. It is true that some people cheat just because they can but most have their reasons which is why I don't think its right to be so quick to blame the cheater when it may be the circumstances. I mean we are only human and there would only be so long I could handle a sexless of loveless marriage. If I'm the only one who is willing to admit that then so be it but I know alot of people who say they would never cheat just haven't realized what conditions they would have to be under. It's not saying we are bad people but I totally understand standards to a relationship.
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