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writes:I am so confused as to what i have done i am lost. Before i use to like that 46year old , he was protective, caring would defend me at work, was my main support and we use to flirt so much. Every one noticed and we was just tight i fell for him. People would say he never helps any one, yet with me always.But he had kept it in the dark him being married then when i did find out and asked him he was shocked. Anyways i hadn't seen him since new year as he has now divorced his wife, well shes divorced him and our mutual friends tell me he loved her. (yet why was he flirting and touching me gently in secret)., He's been back over a week and i came back recently. He has changed, he is awkward to me, he will not help me, we will discuss a case and he will ignore me, go quiet then two minutes later say sorry what was you saying, and again and again. He is trying hard to push me away and he is being a jerk. I asked him alone why he is being so distant he said he is busy. Yesterday i asked him whats wrong as he is being grumpy, he said he is busy. YET to our friends hes being the same old funny guy that i use to like. I can see through my mates facial expressions and ppl in the office have commented thats he not being nice to me. I don't say anything back to that. Today i didn't talk or look at him, well tried not to. He looked at me few times i just ignored and didnt make no conversation and vice versa. He's make a drift and i don't knwo what to do. I haven't said anything so what is the problem?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 April 2013):
 The problem is that as long as he was married he felt safe to flirt with you at work. Now that the safety net of his wife is gone, and he's actually potentially available for a relationship his true colors show and he is not interested and the only way he knows to cope is to cut you off totally.
There is nothing you did or did not do that will change his behavior.
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