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writes:Quick backstory:-Me (guy) and her (ex) are 20, dated officially for two months.-She broke it off, saying it seems as if I like her more than she does for me. (I was clingy, needy, insecure. She didn't say this, but it was 'part' of the underlying reasons)-She knew I wasn't happy with the decision, but I didn't do any begging or whining. I let her go.-Month of NC. Start talking to her occassionally via msn. First two convos were regarding our relationship. She said there's no going back.-After that, I initiated a few more convos, but were spaced far apart from each other, and I didn't mention the relationship. She always responds, but a bit cold and distant.-New interest in my life. Writes something on my facebook that suggests me and her (new girl) have been doing some naughty things together.-Ex apparently tries to make me jealous via facebook the following weekend. Does things that are very unusual and obvious that she's trying to grab my attention.-Contacted her once after that, but didn't bring up her facebook jealousy attempt.-Month and a half later, her bday comes, I absolutely forget. She initiates convo for the first time since breakup, and is excited and fast to talk to me (she was drunk, but she gets drunk quite a bit). I was a bit aloof and calm, and I ended the convo early, but I gave sympathy for a friend's tragedy she endured.Next day, I msg her to let her know that she could talk to me if she needs to. She says her friends have been there for her. After an exchange on a different topic, she eventually signs off without saying bye. Almost 2 months later, still nothing from her.My questions are:Why did she go all the way to make me jealous via facebook? She broke up with me, and never initiated conversation after the breakup (until around her bday, which was a month after this). She seems certain that she was done with me, and didn't play any games after breakup.Is her initiating a conversation right after her bday and friend's tragedy an indication that she still has a bit of feelings for me? And why go back to her usual post-breakup behaviour the day after?Does she still somewhat like me?
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (7 May 2011):
 HI :) After reading your post, I have 2 conclusions.1) she wants to keep you on a distant string, so if all else fails she has you to fall back on . I don't think she was jealous, I think it was more of a anything you can do i can do better situation here.OR2) She is selfish, and is only interested in talking to you when she wants something, or is bored. I know this may sound harsh, but I have come across girls like this many times in my life. You need to get this girl out of your mind and life, start by deleting her from your sites. and start to focus on where you would like your life to take you.Maybe go traveling, or a hobby you like? I just think this ex likes to play mind games, and wants to keep you down on her level.I hope this has helped.
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