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writes:Alright one of my best friends decided to this weekend take me out for some fun and introduce me to some new people and a few new girls in hopes of boosting my social life and just helping me move past a few bad weeks. We had an awesome time. I met two girls that im interested in and just narrowly missed hooking up with one for the night, but because she had to work that night and sorta had a boyfriend already (which i was not informed of till after the fact) needed to go home and things ended at talking and her asking me questions. Well the girl i liked the most out of the group is a coworker of my friend, we have a lot in common and we get along great all weekend and were still texting. Well with the friend i was hanging with who introduced me to these people theirs an issue, girls seem to except for in rare cases like the first girl mentioned above, seem go for him and just treat me like a friend even if they find me attractive. The girl i like who is his coworker he doesn't have any intent of getting deep with because he doesn't want to make things awkward at work yet she and her mother are obsessed with him just because of his looks. Im not quite as good looking in the masculine beefcake sorta way, he is the jock who is actually a nerd but hides it till last second type, while im more slender built and dont hide that im a nerd from moment one. After everyone left and me, my friend, and the coworker were the only ones left she began to really hit on him and started to get all huggy making me the 3rd wheel. I was the 3rd wheel effectively for the next 2 hours before we got tired and we all decided to crash in the living room. As you probably can guess this made me aggravated and uncomfortable since i know he has no interest in and never made any advances on her yet she kept trying and ignored me who had been hinting all night and flirting a bit that i liked her. Well things only got worse when we started to try to sleep, my friend tried to leave me to sleep beside her (he was trying to hook us up all night) but she followed him to the other couch and slept next to him, which obviously irritated me as she got all cuddly with him and left me alone on the couch alone and uncomfortable while he gets his 500th experience like that and ive never had a girlfriend really and never slept with anyone innocently or otherwise.The next morning things got worse for me when i woke up they were asleep on top of each other, and her mother was getting ready to go on a trip. I went back to sleep because the wound from last night reopened seeing this. I woke up when her grandmother made us breakfast. Her mother on her leave had left her a note telling her to specifically try to get with my friend but with no mention of me in a negative or positive light. I always play second banana to someone and this opened a very big and very old wound. Especially since this was the first time her mother had met either of us and i had been trying to make a good impression the whole time, so the only thing he had on me was he had better looks in most peoples eyes. By the end of that morning when i went home a very awesome night had turned into one of the worst mornings of my life. I was so hurt and pissed off for history repeating itself that i just wanted to sleep.The thing that i don't grasp is this girl knows how he is and that he is more or less a manwhore and will sleep with literally anyone yet she chooses him over me and im a virgin, have good looks, and a nice guy but im not to nice, and i was clearly interested and making passes at her all night and complimented her the night before at least once. I did everything in my power to make her like me yet she chose the guy who seems like the opposite that any girl would want? Or am i not seeing something here? Why does this keep happening Aunts? Why did her and her mother pick my friend over me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionO its not the confidence for sure i have plenty, I do make a challenge but with her it was like i wasnt trying all that hard, trying yes, but making her have to try but she didnt. to far up his ass XD
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reader, Tasmanian devil  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 From the 18th century to the 21st it has been proven women prefer the mysterious, inconspicuous unknown (mr darcy/shady grady) rather than what they theoretically believe is the perfect man sweet, smart, good looking i.e you. Some people are different, but quite a few like the chase, like to nurture the lonely soul. I think thats what your friend appears to be so is more sexually attractive and the rest just falls in place. Don't get 2 down, she seems to be missing a good catch, he might be known as the manwhore, but you appear to be more marriage material, which is better in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know its a good thing but it stresses me because my body wants it and i dont get it lol. This sorta thing keeps happening,its just not with her, or my friend. im just percieved 2nd best all the time
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reader, lavalass  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 hello...1stly you possess a prize possession,you're a virgin.2ndly why are you banging your head over ths girl???she's not worth it.they choose your friend over you,so wht??? dont sweat it.they are telling you something,she's not for you,she's not the one,so leave it alone,there's someone better for you out there.as to your friend,if he's always in the spot light,and you get pissed off cause of ths,drop him,hang wth someone else,if not things like ths will always happen to you,and i think he likes tht all the girls fall for him..so hang on to your virginity for a while till the right girl pops up,you wont regret it...
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