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female
age
30-35,
*ivaRandal
writes:Why was my husband acting like this before marriage?Before i got married i was in love with a married man(11 years my senior) who had a 3 year old daughter.We were extremely good friends and we enjoyed each other's company. But very hesistatingly i disclosed him my feelings that i had for him.At that time he said he had to continue with his wife for 3 years as his daughter was too young and he couldnt handle her alone as his job required him to be out of home frequently.I didnt force him and i began dating a guy who was my collegemate who genuinely loved me.He had the hurry to get engaged so we did get engaged.but the moment i got engaged my life was torn apart.The man 11 years my senior became crazy after he heard about my engagement.He would show up late at night at my house and call me bad things.Then he became absoluetly berserk.I began having sexual relationship with him.I yeilded coz i had no option.He would break the furniture,scream and shout like crazy.He said if i get involved with him sexually my fiance would dump me.he took up heavy drinking,separated and divorced his wife and took the custody of his child citing me as her new mom.He would have sex with me whenever he got the opportunity.My fiance came to know all this and he broke up with me.8 months ago i married him and now hes a completely changed man.He takes care of me to bits,makes sure i am happy and never forces me for sex as he was doing before.I was pregnant but i had a miscarriage.Throughout that time he nursed me,cooked my fav dishes for me and even cried a lot when he came to know that i was in intensive care.his behavior has totally changed.Though hes still possessive hes become very sweet and loving.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2011): Me:
when the right person came it was not the right time.
when the right time came many wrong persons came.
Now I am alone.....
You:
you are at the right time and with the right man.
If you like, take misleading advice of certain persons, be obsessed with them and ruin your beautiful marriage life.
Listen to me sister, your husband is 200% ok. wish I could have such a loving man. Be happy because you are very lucky.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): OP please check out the following link. You will find it useful: dearcupid.org/question/can-he-get-addicted-to-me.htmlLoveGirl
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2011): Ignore the poisons offered by LoveGirl. when you live happily with your hubby, do not seek any opinion of outsiders. Can't u really understand y he acted like that? because he really really loves you and he could not bear losing u. It was your fault getting involved in another affair while ur hubby had asked you for some time. It's human that he became furious when he got to know about it. forget all rubbish and live happily. love him whole heatedly.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2011): what's done is done. I don't agree with love girl. Now that everything has happened and he's your husband, please live happily with him. I guess he truly loves you. If he cares about you and love you what else you want? your life is beautiful. don't be scared of the unseen future or do not worry about the past. Live your life. Be happy and make him happy too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): becareful u dont end up like his wife in the years to come. he cheated on his wife. you cheated on your fiance.you both hurt 2 innocent people and his daughter also paid a price.
this man "forced" u to have sex with you. so he raped u and he continued to rape u until your fiance found out?
this man dicorced his wife to be with you, and he forcibly took custody of his child and named you her mom??
i actually can see the writing on the wall. u better not cross him again or else it will not just be breaking furniture and forced sex, but it will turn very ugly.
i think u need to watch for manipulation and coersion in your marriage. yes your married lover married you. but at what cost?
are u not afraid that he will cheat on u as well. what will he do if u have his baby. also destroy u and take away the child?
warning bells. great warning bells. i just hope you hear them in time.....
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2011): I guess he saw you slipping away,moving on with a new man and couldn't bear it.
It worked out ok and I hope your happy and that his possesiveness doesn't become an issue over time.
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