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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Okay after a couple of years after my break up I feel almost like I have closure. (My ex cheated on me after 5 years and had been seeing his mistress for the last 4 1/2 months. I outed him and tried to talk with her)The one thing that still bothers me is when she told me, "he said, he never thought of me as his girlfriend" and that she chose to believe him (even after she caught him in a couple of lies). I feel as if she thought I was being dishonest.I'm not sure if its the honesty thing that is bugging me or if its he created chaos and hurt a lot of people in his destruction, and he still ended up getting the other girl or his happy ending (however you want to put it) he did not have to go through the pain and anguish of ending a relationship. Its upsetting that he didn't have to go through anything. Why did she believe him? Forgive him? Why does he get away with his dishonest actions (in this case the dishonest actions was cheating?)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 April 2011):
 my then husband lied to his now girlfriend that he was separted from me. she wanted to leave him but she forgave him and stayed with him. sadly I know her pain and she will never be able to trust him 100% but she opted to stay because lonely is a lousy place to be.
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