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writes:me and my best Friend were talking about a holiday we are going in summer.. shes all going on bout how many guys were going to have sex with..i told her no..am not going to sleep with Random strangers thanx..she said i'd be drunk so i wont know what am doing..i told her when am drink i know exactly what am saying..where i am and what am doing.. and said besides i dont drink alot anyway..she then called me a boring sk.ank,,i said omg that's rude no one is ever called me that before and she said am sure (blah and the others do) some girls who have been talking about me saying all sorts of lies about me..:( when i dont even speak to them.i was very sad that my best friend said that.. i went all quite after she told me to cheer up..( she didnt even apologise)why is she behaving like this??when shes always telling people am her best friend ect??am really upset:( i'd never say that to my friend:(
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (5 February 2010):
 She told you that she enjoys things that you believe are bad. You declined to participate with her. Exactly what a person with moral courage would do. In judging her activities and rejecting them, you in effect rejected her. So she felt stung by that and struck back without thinking. She called you a boring s.... because you alluded that she was loose and irresponsible.
Where to go from here. She is willing to let it drop from here so you can forgive and mover on staying friends. But, and this is the big one, she has told you what is on her to do list for the holiday. I don't think she is changing her plans. You are already committed that you won't do those things. You should probably not go with her. She will keep pushing you to change your mind if you do. You have already made a good decision, one that will keep you happier and safer than hers. There is no reason to change just to keep her entertained.
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (5 February 2010):
Sounds to me that she might be trying peer pressure on you. You didn't give her the answer she wanted and now she's trying to make you feel bad. I know because my friends always want me to do things I know is plain wrong and they call names to make me feel bad when I say no. I think you should tell her it did upset you that she called you that. If she's really your best friend and cares about your feelings then she'll apologize. If not then that just shows you what kind of person she really is and a girl getting drunk and sleeping with random guys well thats just slutty to me. I think this girl might be trouble so be careful with her. People do change no matter how well you know them. Hope this helped a little.
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reader, lil ladyy +, writes (5 February 2010):
 well it seems to me you didnt give her the answer she wanted soo she got nasty... some mates get like that if you don't do or say what they want you to they become rude...
and she shouldnt even bring other peopel into it those peopel might not have said anything she might just be saying that soo she don't seem nasty on her own and stuff
you should sit her down and tell her that she can't talk to you like that and sort it out befor you'r hoilday and if she still get rude then you need to think about who you'r friends reali are .. hope it helped ... x
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