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writes:Why do girls feel insecure or why does it lower their self esteem when they can't get men off. Recently the last couple times I was sleeping with my gf I was not able to get off. This is because we came back late and I had a several alcoholic beverages. Regardless, the next day she asked why I couldn't get off and wanted to know if I was still attracted to her. She expressed her self esteem was hurt. Is this a deeper issue or is she just being silly?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Well, it's hard to be logical during these things. Most women want to be so hot and sexy that nothing - not booze, the pope walking in, the Apocalypse - will stop you from cumming. And logically, we know that the nature of the universe will not have that happen 100% of the time. But, it's hard to be reasonable when she feels like she wasn't sexy enough to get you all the way there.
Reassure her and remind her that she's the sexiest woman in the world to you. Remind her that alcohol can kill an erection, but it will never affect how gorgeous she is and how much she turns you on. Good luck!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Sigh...making a man cum is often how we measure ourselves at least I know I do. The reasonable part of our brains tells us it could be any number of factors that might have led to it but it's impossible to see it as anything other than a failure.
Just - be reassuring and the next time you get a chance - get off big time.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 I guess shes not been with many men. Alchohol can certainly affect things. Just reassure her, show her how if she needs tuition and look like your enjoying it when she tries in future :-)
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