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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for a while now, we live together. He has 2 kids and an ex-wife. Well, here about 3 weeks ago his ex sent me 3 pics that he has sent to her of him naked in our home (that we moved into together)!! She had been trying to tell me before this, that he wasn't over her and she recives text messages from him all the time telling her. She also said that it wasn't that long ago that they had sex. He tells me that he meant to send me the pics, but he don't know what made him send them to her. He said that he messed up bad and he was sorry, he lets me check his phone now but it is easy to push delete!!!! He tried to have her number blocked but the phone company said they can't do that. I just don't know how to trust him again. He is my everything, my life, my heart, my world and he knows that! I love him more than life itself, more than anyone ever could love another. I can see myself with this man for the rest of my life, and not have it any other way! Am I stupid for still feeling this way? I honestly don't know what to do any more. He is dealing with a lot of problems right now and they haven't been seperated all that long. He says he hates her and wants nothing to do with her, if that's the case why did she get the pics and not I???? I am just so confused and don't want to lose him! He means the world to me! I just wish that I had the answers that I need hopefully someone can help me out!
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reader, ~broken~ +, writes (14 February 2009):
~broken~ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers! Hopefully I can get through this cause right now I'm not doing to good with it!!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 February 2009):
This looks very bad to me.
Unless your name is Emma and her name is Emmb, then there is no excuse for him sending the pics to her.
Also, he has said can't block her number when surely the problem is that he's contacting her, not the other way round.
You need to sit him down and ask him WHY he did it. Is he not over her? If he's not then you have to back away from him so he can sort his feelings out and realise what he may lose in you. DON'T just sit there and hope that he'll wake up fixed one day. Be strong about this.
If he really wants to make a go of things with you then he needs to get a new phone and a new number. He also needs to be open and honest about his feelings. It's not enough to let you check his phone. All that does is make you his paranoid prison guard. It doesn't fix the problem or build any trust.
Let him get his head straight and figure out what he wants.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Auntie Stoned +, writes (13 February 2009):
Sounds like he hasnt got over his ex. Thus having sex with her and sending nude pics. I would suggest you move out and live on your own. Let him sort out his life first. Then only come back to you if he still wants you.
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