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writes:i need some advice and your opinions on my relationship please...I have been with my boyfriend for over ten months now and we have been getting on really well, we arranged to meet tonight but he stood me up. I was waiting for an hour and a half in the freezing cold weather, it was -1 outside. Also he hasnt been the first time he has done this, last week it was half hour but at least he showed up unlike tonight.So my questions are: Why did you think he did that?Do you think he isnt interested anymore?Should i finish him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou all for your opinions...i have spoken to him :) i told him how i was soooo angry and hurt that he stood me up, he said sorry and that he would make it up to me :\ so i will just have to see if he sticks to his word or not. He also told me the reason he was late, i do believe him coz it was very truthful. Cant say what it was but he is having some problems athe moment with his job\family\friends x
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (2 February 2012):
 it seems he is taking you for granted , that you will always be their for him if he is late, or not show up at all. you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel, that you are not happy by his lack of concern. you need to let him know that you waited on him in the cold for about an hour. you need to let him know you don't feel like first place in his life. you need to let him know you are hurt and mad about being stood up. you need to work things out with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): Some people are just unreliable and forgetful and as he's kept seeing you he still seems to be interested.
But you should let him know what YOU expect of HIM. You could give him a deadline: tell him you will wait 10 minutes and if he's not there you will go home. Or get him to call round for you. Or arrange that if he is going to be late he's going to phone you. Don't just put up with it and say nothing.
If you are scared he isn't interested don't let that affect how you are with him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 February 2012):
 "Why did he stand me up?"
Heck if I know, I'm not him. Only he can answer that question. What was his excuse for last time being half hour late? You did ask him didn't you??
Did you ring his mobile phone to see where he was? I'm guessing he didn't answer or his phone was off.
You need to COMMUNICATE with your boyfriend and demand to know why he didn't show up. He evidently has a lagging communication skills, so that means you need to be on of communication in this relationship. Tell him you were angry, it was cold, and you guys had plans. If he couldn't make it, the courteous thing to do was to ting you and cancel beforehand.
If this is an on growing trend with him, then I would end the relationship. Clearly, he has MAJOR communication issues.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (2 February 2012):
 You need to ask him why he didn't turn up and listen to what he has to say. If he is vague and doesn't give a good reason, you might have to insist in future that he picks you up from home so you arnt left hanging around.
Boys (and men)hate being questioned and put on the spot and they are usually at their most difficult if they are hiding something and covering up.
Maybe give him one more chance to redeem himself and make it up to you. If he does it again then I would think about ending it with him...but give him a chance to put things right if you really like him.
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