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writes:My boyfriend of 2 years said a very strange thing to me out of the blue, we where talking together as usal before we both head off to work in the morning, and out of now were he starts kissing me and huggin me and then says "i wont leave you" and then i asked "what did you say?" as i was confused and he replied "i wont leave you", i have no idea why he said this, any people got any ideas on why he would say that out of the blue like that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): I think he was thinking about leaving you for the other woman. He probably crossed the line by tasting the other side, and realized there is nothing better than you. But most likely I think he cheated and saw it wasn't worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the thoughs on this one, i was going to ask him but i though id just ask everyone what their experiences where if they have had a similar thing said to them. I also didnt mention that about 2 weeks ago i found out he was sending flirtous emails to another women and i also found out he had visited her home a number of times, we had a big fight about it, but he said we should just 4get about it and move on, he calms nothing ever happen but because of this comment that just came out of no where i though maybe his feeling guilty or maybe he did want some feed back from me, im not really sure, ill submit another posting when i ask him more about what he said. thanks all
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reader, 2EsillyaMuse'D +, writes (11 January 2006):
I have two reasons that I think he'd say this, neither of which is the greatest of scenarios. One, he's cheating on you. He's cheating and wants you to think he'd never do that because he'd "never leave you" (and, technically, he hasn't left you...he's just gone around with other girls as well). Not a lot you can do about this yourself, except to confront him if you have conclusive evidence he's cheating. Two, he just wants you to go to bed with him and he's trying to get around the "but what if I get pregnant and then you leave?" reason for not doing it. To counter this one, just don't sleep with him until you're married. Guys who are willing to go through the wedding ceremony really are less likely to leave you than those who aren't - and if they do, you've got legal access to their money, so they're better off staying put from a purely financial view.
The third reason, less cinical but unfortunately also less likely, is that he just had the thought that he ought to tell you this because he really doesn't want to ever leave you. If this is the case, consider yourself one lucky ducky and give the boy a smooch. He deserves it.
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reader, nogames +, writes (11 January 2006):
Simple. Ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): It sounds to me like he is feeling guilty about something. Of course I'm just assumming on this. Has he ever said this to you before in the past? Is it because he feels you need reassurance about your relationship? Maybe he was wanting your feedback on how you would respond to this question as..perhaps he wanted some reassurance of his own by you telling him that things are great between you and that you are Happy with him,and things are fine between the two of you. It's really something that you need to ask him yourself . Tell him that this really bothered you and you are not sure why he would of said this. "Communication is the Key!"
Good Luck hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): Ask him. Maybe he was trying to be romantic or heroic. Maybe someone he knows is going to dump their girlfriend and he wanted to let you know he wouldn't do the same, maybe he heard it in a movie and thought it sounded like a nice thing to say to you, etc, etc, etc
You will never know until you ask him.
Poor guy probably just tried to say something nice and you are over analysing it! Which is completely normal but unless you want to go mad thinking about it, just ask him.
I think the question as well is why does it bother you so much?
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