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writes:Me and my ex broke up about 5 weeks ago, on good terms. Following this, we did not contact each other. Then suddenly, out of the blue, he popped up on facebook but the conversation was very short; it was just the boring 'hi' 'hows you' etc. Then i asked him if he had been up to much (just making conversation) But he failed to reply back! I don't know if it means anything, but why would he suddenly start conversation with me when he didn't really want to chat to me in the first place?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): Well, what I would say in response to that is this: a man who is in love with you isn't going to break up with you simply b/c he needs space. The last time I heard a guy tell me that needed space was my ex and that was b/c he was going back to his ex. Think about it...if a relationship is going great, why break it off? Obviously your ex didn't think the relationship was going fine. The reason he gave is too vague...what does he need "space" for as if you are bothering him? He just isnt that into the relationship he had with you, thus he ended it in a "nice" way as not to hurt you per say. If I were you, I wouldn't take him back unless God himself tells you too. Don't wait around for him, don't expect him to contact you, just try your best to get over him and move on with your life. He didn't want to be with you anymore for whatever the reason may be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Zayla80,He's back on my friends list now, so i take it either my facebook was messed up or that he blocked me, then unblocked me. He initiated another conversation with me tonight, which went pretty well i suppose - he didn't seem offish with me at all. The reason we broke up was because he didn't feel ready for a relationship and needed 'space'. Whether he was being truthful or not, I don't know! The break up came as a shock to me because things were going quite well. Even though i miss him terribly, I don't think I could ever get back together with him! I don't want to be messed around. In terms of the sort of bf/gf we were to each other, I would say that I was quite laid back in the relationship... I never pestered him to meet me, infact I always left it with him to make the arrangements since he had work committments. He always came across as very protective of me, which was nice! I was sometimes very shy within his presence, I couldn't help it - I would just choke up and not know what to say. But apart from those occasional moments, we got on great! I was quite hesitant in the relationship, when it came to the physical side of things - I won't go into detail here, but I found it hard to let myself go; for example I would often get urges to kiss him at random times but I tended to restrict myself from doing so because I would feel embarrassed. We were quite opposite to each other in a lot of ways - but as they say, opposites attract!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): If he has blocked you from Facebook and any other networking site you may have befriended him on, then there is a reason why. Once again, you didn't give any info on what kind of gf you were in the relationship, what kind of bf he was in the relationship, why the relationship ended and so forth and so on. I say at this point, if he has blocked you, then just take that as a queue that he doesn't want you contacting him and visa versa. Don't worry about the why's and why nots. Just move on. Don't become a stalker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): Why did you guys break up to begin with? Also, I don't think it's a good idea to try to spark up a friendship after a breakup---instead end all contact and try moving forward in your life. I would however, make it clear to my ex that my life is not a revolving door. He can't chose to come back and leave when he gets ready too. If he is leaving, then stay gone...because, when he yo-yos like that and keep sending you mix messages, it makes the healing process even longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe appears to have either deleted/blocked me on facebook now. I don't know what he's playing at, but thank you for your answer. I think you may be right! It's just really sad how we have drifted apart.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (14 May 2010):
 He may have decided that talking to you was not a good idea for him or you or maybe even both and that is why he did not carry on speaking with you. =]
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