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writes: I feel like I'm not good enough for my boyfriend. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and everything has been great until recently. I found out a couple of weeks ago that he had been getting in touch with this girl who had called his best friend for a long time. Well I was starting to get a really bad feeling about them talking so I texted her saying that I didn't want her talking to my boyfriend so much because it was making me uncomfortable. I got a call like literally a minute after sending the text and she left a voicemail threatening to beat me up and saying that he told her alot of things that I would've broken up with him for. Well...I texted him and I asked him what these things were and he responded with "oh the whole thing about me wanting to cheat on you?" I just lost it right there and started crying so bad. Then I called him and he explained to me that he had been talking to her and they talked about making out next time they saw each other. This really hurt me because I thought that I was enough for him and that he wouldn't need any other girl to fulfill anything. He had always told me that I'm perfect and that no other girl is like me. He thinks I'm over it now but I really am not. I can't stop thinking about it especially when this girl keeps emailing me and threatening me for ruining her relationship with him. Because since then I told him I don't trust him and do not want him talking to any girls and that if any girl texts him, he better let me know. It really hurts to know that he did that and I don't know if I'll be able to trust him completely again. Is every guy like that or is there just something wrong with me? Why did he have to go looking somewhere else for that kind of attention? I don't get it at all. Please help me understand.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 January 2010):
If the girl is still threatening you, keep all the emails, show them to your parents. They will decide whether or not to take it to the police as harassment.
As for your boyfriend, he clearly has no respect for you whatsover to be saying that the next time they meet they will make out. You can do better than him. Not all guys are like this. Some are, some aren't. You need to find a guy who is decent, rather than this guy who is letting his girlfriend be threatened by another woman. Hardly the knight in armour. Let him go.
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