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writes:Can you please tell me why a certain boy gave me the cold shoulder? Basically, I met him at a party, and we got chatting. We talked for ages about anything and everything and I immidiately felt a connection, and soon his arm was around me. He had only had a couple of drinks, and though I’d had a bit more, I was still thinking clearly. We talked for literally hours,and he'd hold me close and stroke my hair. His heart was beating so fast too! We ended up making out multiple times, but also just slow dancing and cuddling for the whole night. It was amazing, and he seemed to be having a great time. He was so affectionate, it seemed. However,a few hours later we separated for a bit, but on great terms, though after that he completely ignored me. He couldn’t bring himself to look at me for the rest of the night and following morning. It was unbearably awkward. I felt awful, like he was disgusted by me. I really don’t think he’s the shy type, and I can’t deny the wonderful time we had-it did not feel like the usual one-night party hookup. So, why did he act like this?
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 Yes, its painful. I can only tell you the hurt will fade given a little time and you'll be free of it. After all, it was only a party one evening, and not several months of dating!
Stay busy with your studies, friends, books, music, family, whatever activities you enjoy and find engrossing.
The time will come when you'll meet a young man you really like - and he will like you for who you are : - ) indeed, most likely you'll meet a number of nice guys before settling on one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your answer-And no, I didn't sleep with him...I trust myself to avoid that in a situation like this! We french kissed at most.
Maybe he did feel he was 'over the top' with me, but at the same time, it just felt like a perfectly natural unfolding of events...It just felt comfortable, I can't really explain...of course I know I can only speak for myself and he may well have thought he went too far.
It still hurts greatly though, but I'm probably just being an over-sensitive teenage girl!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (19 January 2011):
Well, sorry, but if you met him at a party and then spent the night with him and had sex (not clear if you had sex or not, from your post, you say you were "making out").
But him not being able to bring himself to look at you after this, may indicate that he felt his behavior with you was "over the top" even if you didn't sleep together, and he felt embarrassed. Its possible that even if he had only a couple of drinks (as far as you know, that is) they went to his head and his behavior was under the influence of alcohol - I mean, if he had not been drinking then maybe he wouldn't have been all over you.
Are you likely to run into him again? If so, say "Hi" very casually and see how he responds.
If its unlikely you'll see him around, then the best thing to do would be to put it out of your mind. I know your feelings were hurt by the way he acted.
You mentioned having drunk a bit more than he did, but you were still clear-headed. Wise, but even so, it would be good to watch how much alcohol you're putting into your system another time.......
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