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writes:A guy and I liked each other in high school. After we'd graduated high school (and both moved to different towns), we finally properly began talking online after he reached out and admitted that he had a crush on me but was too shy to talk to me. I said that it's never too late to start talking, so we talked occasionally as friends. Then I got a boyfriend. He knew this, though he said "we should talk more since I have minimal friends and am funny sometimes". He once told me that he'd dropped out of university at one point. At one point, we hadn't spoken in over a year. After I posted online praising my boyfriend for getting into a top university in the world, he blocked me on Facebook out of the blue (unless this timing is coincidental). He usually liked my posts before that. Why do you think he blocked me? Do you think there's a romantic reason (though surely not, since we had not talked in so long) or just because the post was too insensitive when he'd dropped out of uni? I didn't mean to be insensitive or make him feel bad.
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reader, N91  +, writes (1 March 2019):
 You hadnt spoke in a year, the last time you had spoke he had a crush on you. You now have a BF so what other reason would he have to keep you?
Forget about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2019): I think he got over you and respects the fact you have a boyfriend. He decided to move-on. People I don't communicate with over an extended period of time usually get removed from my contacts. Maybe that's the case.
If you have a boyfriend, should "a romantic reason" matter?
How do you know you made him feel bad? He's a big-boy, and just decided to move on. Why would he want to read the updates regarding your relationship anyway?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 February 2019):
 Maybe he "cleaned" house. I know my husband removes people he hasn't spoken to in a long time (such as a year).
Maybe he realized that you were STILL with your BF and that your BF was OBVIUSLY more successful than him and thus he stood no chance with you.
He really wasn't in contact with you to be your pen-pal. He was hoping that you liked him back, and when you got a BF, he hoped it wouldn't last... And when he saw hat it did... He decided for HIS OWN sake to move on.
There is NOTHING insensitive in being PROUD of your BF getting into a good university! you can't walk on eggshells all your life hoping to NEVER offend ANYONE. Because it's not realistic.
IF he got offended by that post.. well, tough. Sorry. Do you think you should be expected to NEVER post anything with the word university in it? What if you went to see your BF at Uni and wanted to post pictures? Oh no! Can't do that.. you might hurt this guy's (whom you haven't talked to in a YEAR!!) feelings!
You didn't do anything wrong. He made a choice to block you. So what?! It's not like he was someone you kept in touch with or were really good friends with. He was an "admirer" from High School.
Let it go.
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