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writes:I am a 33y old single woman. I decided to start to date recently..and I found it a bit complicated. When I go out I meet a lot of guys..I go out with them..can be drinks..or dinner..but nothing really happen after that...I find out that the only thing that they want is sex..even in the first date..and that makes me sad..cuz I really would like to meet a nice guy who wants to know me better and who knows maybe be my partner..But there is the thing. I have a friend..friend for long time ago..like 5 years. we know each other very well. I know his past and he knows mine too. We tell each other about our dates and trust a lot of things. As a friends we get very well together. Sometimes he comes to my place and we watch movies, we eat together, we kiss each other but nothing else.He is a muslim guy and I know his family. All of them muslim too while I am not.I met his family long time ago and his mom is very special with me..they always invited me for dinner, we spend evenings together drinking tea and talking, cooking etc...One day after work he came to my place and we were talking but things went hot fast and we ended up naked in my bed. That never happened before between us...Then out of the blue he said I would like to make the love with you..but you know I can not do it. I know about it because since I know him and his family I learned about the Islam and I know they are not allow to have sex before marriage.From that moment we become more close.He said that he loves me..he said that he has a lot of feelings for me, he said that he feels me like one of his family and he likes my soul. He said that he has a connection with me. But he knows I am not muslim and I wont understand why he acts like that with me.He said he respect me and loves me the way that I am.Now, my concern is..why it is happening to me?I been dating for long time ago..I been meeting a lot of guys..a lot of stupid guys that the only thing that they want is a one night stand...and then my friend..my old friend says all those things to me..I am really confused and sad....Is he the man of my life??I always wanted to meet a guy who respect me and loves me and I been looking for that. God knows that! But know there he is.I dont know what to do.Why culture differences can be soo tough when there is love?
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (3 April 2012):
Have you asked your friend "will you date me? Would you ever marry a non Muslim like me?" see what he says.
It sounds like you are in love with each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2012): I’m Japanese and my husband is Muslim, of course we are all different but in my opinion most of Muslim men make great husbands and fathers. Yes there is a cultural differences but I love it. They are really family oriented and you can really on their promises, as I see the other Muslim guys in his family and also in their community. I am sure you have noticed their great hospitality and kindness and some how you feel secure and can rely on them. My husband and the other guys that I know are very generous and provide everything for their families and don’t look after their wives income or even expect them to bring anything. They are very educated and liberal in this community and I’m so happy that I married him to experience such a wonderful life with him. Just don’t listen to stupid media and stereotyping and go by your observation and experience. Good luck
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