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writes:My ex broke up with me a little while back because his previous ex and him had been in a long term relationship and he didnt really want to go back to that with me. In other words he didnt want a long term relationship again. So we had agreed to be friends, since the time we spent together was awesome. Yes, I was very hurt and said hurtful things because I really didn't suspect he would break up with me anytime soon. But I felt like we both hurt each other and we both apologized. I really wanted to stay friends with him, without wanting to get back because I care about him deeply and I decided to leave the country (for other reasons, nt bec of him).The problem is now he is acting if we cant even be friends, wheb hd had previously promised to. Now he acts all mean, like if we had been two people who hated each other which isnt true at all.I explained to him how I feel, and he says that tats his wat to cope bec talkin to me makes him sad and miss me. But how can that be when you, yourself broke up with me. 3 times he did, so why sud he be feelin sorry now. He sud just get over it, since all he wants is to date around... and agree to us being friends. Cause I have no intentions of going back, I just care a lot about him and miss us talking as friends.Cause anyways he was never romantic or said i love you or anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2014): I think the best thing to do is move on and maybe not worry about a friendship with him. I know it can be difficult, but at the end of the day I think having a friendship with the opposite sex after you've been in a relationship is not the healthiest thing, espeicially if you want to meet other guys in the future.I think he is treating you badly because he's hurt, like you said. I don't think this is good but at the same time everyone is different and people deal with grief in different ways.It sounds like the connection was not as strong between you and him, compared to his ex. I believe if a guy cares for someone enough, he'll want to be in a relationship no matter what. If his intentions are to be with a few other women, let him do this alone. You'll feel worse knowing about all of the women he's seeing if you continue being his friend. I think you'll feel a lot better in the long run if you move on. There's plenty more fish in the sea! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2014): You're still trying to hold on with hope that he will get back together. He knows you feel more for him than just being friends.
He has probably met someone, and he doesn't want you around to interfere with that. You are not over him yet, and you will only get jealous.
You are both messing around with each others feelings; and you aren't really friends. You're a girl who can't deal with a breakup, let go of her ex, and move on.
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