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writes:well, my story goes like this, im a single mother,hard worker good all around person i will like to think. i meet this guy many years ago when i was married and we were friends...many years went by and we got intouch about 1 month before he went to prison for 4 years, we became really close and i waited for him for 4 years to come out and then was with him for almost 2 years, i was there for him 100%, i notice when he got out that he wasnt as sweet and into me like before but thinks got okay all alone i knew i should not be with him... he battle addiction all his life,but was clean when came out..for a while then things started getting bad, he did not show interest in me,as i wanted to, and i started feeling not good enough for him, ugly, fat and not worthy, he has not job,no license,no car,no money and no ambitions...he started using again, firs weed,then coke and it took him to start using ecstasy and driking. he is very much an active addict...things got bad because i was jealous do to the fact that he wasnt a good boyfriend..well he started calling me names, the most horrible names i ever hear, shoving things on my face,shoke me many time,kicked me out of his house,and called me pshyco...let last time out on a restaurant he was texting someone it was his bday and i took him out to eat..after getting out of the hospital where i was treated for depression and trying to take some pills cuz of the relationship...well he got mad at me cuz i asked him who it was, the phone felt and i grabbed it...he shoked me and punched me in the back of the head.i had to run away from him in my car...he broke up with me that day...i begged him to please take me back many times, but he will say not now, we should just be friends....well i change my number and try to move on and i was feeling better, a little bit...cryied like crazy then last week i get a letter from him from jail..he got arrested for trafficking and i called his mom..who told me he was with someone else, the older woman that lived closed by and the one i always was jealous about, i dont know why...also she told me that he was cheating on me with some other girl wich i was suppected of but i was always called a crazy bitch for even mentioning it....so he sais on the letter that he thinks of me all day and that if we had stay booty friend maybe the relationship would had gotten fix..also that he is greatfull for the time we where together...my thing is i told his mom to tell him to never look for me again and that i know all the true........but now i cant stop thinking about him with this older lady, and them together in bed...and if he left me for her, even though i know he has some hard times ahead for getting arrested and a exconvict he may do time again...i feel bad for him , i dont understand why i cant be mad ...instead im just hurt and jealous.....i have reall low selfsteem specially after this abusive relationship...he always told me he could be with better looking girls but he choose me...im a pretty woman so they say a little over weight but his new lady is 14 years older than him and she aint all that.. so what is the deal.. why do i feel like shit just cuz he is with her and cant think of the fact that he is a convict, abuser, addict,sociopath, cheater liar and very controlling person...why cant i hate him...please help me i need to move on...i have a daughter to take care of, and i left all my life behind just to think about him and it was all about him all the time....i was jealous yes, but he was cheating, and also mistreating me...why cant i let him go......please help im tired of crying and being sad...thank u ...
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reader, emslatina +, writes (15 December 2010):
emslatina is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry taken so long to check this I have been sad and crying in a horri
orribl
e mood... thank u so much for your answers and I'm really trying t
o be happy again. I don't want him back in my life, plus now he faces legal problems that r taking him back to prison soon... I don't need that.. I'm just still hurt cuz he hasn't look for me besides the letter.. is he treating that woman better than me?? Was ot my fault ?? Why ami not enough for him to look for me again.... ..?? Is going to be 5 months in 3 days and I'm still hurting ... I hate this feeling. .. but I know I be okay is just hard getting there... I'm so lonely !!!
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reader, jcams +, writes (9 December 2010):
I agree with the two posts before. You need to get rid of this guy. I have one friend that survived an abusive relationship. I have two that didn't. For your sake and the sake of your daughter you need to get some distance from him. PERMANENTLY! My parents have been together since high school. It is a relationship that people will almost never see. But the reason that they are so happy is because they give everything they have to making the other person happy. It sounds like your situation was a one way street. Get some distance from him. Find out who you are and what you want. Then start into a relationship again. There are still good men out there that are loving and caring and want to be there for their partner. When you find one your life will become SO much different. I hope you find this helpful and I hope that you heed some of this advice.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 Stick to No Contact rule...you dont want this Loser back in your life...put the smile on your face and move on, goodluck
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 Use this to cut him out of your life completely. Do not bother being friends with this abusive son of a bitch. Do not let him crush you like this. Once you are free from him, once you experience what real, caring, passionate men are like, your feelings for him will suddenly transmogrify into disgust and loathing for him. Once it does, do not dwell on it for long, let it soak in and then let it go.
He hurt you, that is terrible enough, please do not let that creature warp your life anymore. For the sake of your daughter, do anything and everything you can to get your life back up above the dimness and perhaps find freedom in freedom itself. What I mean by this is get free from him in distance and in emotion and then, you will remember what you were like before this. Get some positivity back and spend some time being happy with your daughter.
I hope that helps.
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