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writes:Hey guys I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and we have just moved in together everything is fine apart from all the time I have been with him I have never seen him not have an alcoholic beverage and I am worried that this is going to among us especially as he doesn't have a job at the moment how do I approach the situation and confront him about this?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 Did he share the wine with you? Like over a nice dinner he or you cooked? I'm not a wine-o, so I'm not sure if it's normal to finish off a bottle in one night by yourself. Now it is acceptable if he's sharing the wine with you.
Just keep putting your foot down, drinking on the weekends is perfectly acceptable. Sunday night football beers are fine too. The point is to let him still drink but to limit it to just the weekends. During the week is a time to be serious and study for school, or focus on work. You've got to be firm but be within reason. Compromise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell confronted him About it and he said he would only drink on weekends all was fine till we went shopping today and he asked for sone wine for the weekend and I obliged but he has just drank one bottle am absolutly furious but am a shy type and struggle to tell people exactly what I think
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (10 December 2010):
 if YOU are paying for him then its an issue, if he is paying his fair share then it isn't. from what you have said your concern seems to be that he wants a free roof over his head and he is going to drink what little money he has left.
was his alcohol consumption the reason he lost his job? if so its an issue
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 December 2010):
Are you guys in college, if so around your age the guy is going to drink. No big deal, as long as he doesn't abuse it. Who's paying the rent and other living expenses since he doesn't have a job? Has he been recently fired or laid off? Perhaps that's causing him to drink.
I would have a serious talk with him, especially if the apartment is in your name you could set forth a bit of rules. He needs to find a job to help contribute to the expenses and you would like it if he toned down on drinking. Every night isn't a party or an excuse to booze it up. Note, that you can merely ask him to tone down the drinking, of course he's going to do what he wants but hopefully he complies to avoid any future arguments.
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