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36-40,
anonymous
writes:The sex with my boyfriend feels great, but I've never orgasmed during sex before. I want to know how it feels like, but I can't do it. I'm not sure what's wrong. Does anyone have any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): clitoris is the only organ in a female which is solely ment for sexual stimulation and to reach orgasam. During masterbation even from the age of 10 (before puberty) I used to stimulate my clitoris and orgasam. Then I learned it from senior friend. Even now at 35 my husband gives prime importance to clitoral gentle massag during intercourse and I reach orgasam.
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reader, CorpusDei +, writes (15 May 2008):
 First off, there's likely nothing wrong - being unable to reach orgasm strictly through intercourse is a fairly common complaint for women in your age range. As for what you can do about it, well, it's time for a bit of a sexual safari.
If you're able to reach orgasm through masturbation, then you know that you can, and that's half the battle right there. Your homework assignment is to start learning about the things that get you off, then bring him into the picture. Make sure you communicate about what feels good, what he's doing right, and feel free to tell him "You know it feels so much better when you do it this way" if he's not.
As LJ001 pointed out, you probably need to work in some clitoral stimulation, either you working on yourself during sex or have him do it (careful, though, as he might be a little overeager and tend to treat your clit like his penis, and that can be painful)
One excellent way to reach that point is to have him bring you to orgasm orally before you begin sex. Again, much to my eternal regret, remember that excellent oral skills are not something that we guys know instinctively, so it may require a little coaching about what feels good for you. A good guy will be happy to learn, though, as there are few things as satisfying as being able to make your partner week in the knees before your trousers even come off.
Experiment and communicate. Good sex is akin to learning to play an instrument, it can take a little time for you and your partner to find all those ways to make your toes curl, but don't give up. Just play safe, make sure you're using protection, good luck and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
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reader, neergqueen +, writes (15 May 2008):
 has he tried oral? oral is the bomb! well atleast my bf is really good at it.. he knows what i like..and how i like it.
lol..
once u find out where u like it..dont be shy to conversate with him about ittt!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tried rubbing my clitoris. That is the only way that I can orgasm. You're correct, I'm not getting enough clitoral stimulation during sex, but I'm not really sure how to do it. I've tried before, but my hand just gets in the way.
I have to try what you've suggested. I need to get myself a vibrator stat. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): This is probably because during sex you're not getting enough clitoral stimulation, which is the main point for pleasure on girls. The g-spot is the only way you can orgasm through actual intercourse, but this doesn't work for all women. It's about 2 or 3 inches inside your vagina, and feels softer than the rest. So you could try experimenting with yourself and learn where your g-spot is, then this could help you orgasm in sex if you know what feels best. However, a lot of women find it hard to orgasm through their g-spot.
Have you tried rubbing your clitoris or using a vibrator while he has sex with you? This can be very pleasurable, as it stimulates both your clitoris, and gives the amazing feeling of sex too.
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