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writes:When my family first met my boyfriend, they all thought he was funny and great, but after a while, my sisters started to dislike him. One of my sisters secretly told me that they all felt that he wasn't treating me good enough. I actually kind of felt the same way, but I was fine with how our relationship was. She also told me not to tell him. Now whenever I go home with my boyfriend things are all weird between my sisters and me. Should I talk to them about it or am I just over thinking the way their acting? Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (15 May 2008):
 It's your relationship, not theirs. You make your own decisions, and your own mistakes. There are all sorts of reasons why familiy members might not be seeing things the way they really are, but equally they might be able to see something that you can't.
When someone (family or otherwise) says something like that it's always a good idea to shake the stars out of your eyes and step back, both feet firmly on the ground, and have a good hard look at yourself and your relationship to see if there really is anything wrong.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 May 2008):
 When you are in love, you see everything is perfect and without sin.
Those not in love may not agree with your perceptions.
They may have seen his faults and may expect too much from him or judge him too harshly.
When you are with him , you are in a world of your own.
It is your world and let no one desecrate your beautiful world.
Just leave them alone with their thoughts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Listen partially to your family and to yourself. Remember it is your bf not theirs. Sometimes people outside of the relationship can see things that we cannot. But on the other hand, some families interfere when and where they shouldnt. So try and see beyond the rose tinted glasses and make your own judgements.
take carexx
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reader, jimbo_jones +, writes (15 May 2008):
I'd say that if your family doesn't like the guy, then he's probably a loser. They're looking out for your best interests and they also have the advantage of not having their judgment clouded by any emotional involvement in the situation. Unfortunately, like most people you're probably going to have to learn the hard way that your friends and family are usually dead on when it comes to sizing up your dates.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): You might be over thinking it, maybe if they hang out then they can get to know each other?
My personal opinion on one thing. (just my personal opinion). Your family (sisters) are much more important than your boyfriend.
ThatGuy from besikk
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