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writes:So, me and this guy have had a "thing" for over a year now. Last July i told him i was falling in love with him. I know it was strong to say, but i had to tell him. He didn't say anything. We kept our "thing" going after i told him. Its still going on to this day. He is also with someone else and said he was in love. He has told me he wants to be with me and that he could fall in love with me. Two months ago we were hanging out and he told me he was falling out of love with that girl, then quit talking to me for two months. He recentely contacted me becuase he found out i was leaving town for a few weeks. He wanted to know why i was leaving. When i asked why he walked away, he wouldn't give me an answer.I have tried to move on a number of times. Just it never seems to work. I don't know why i can't move on. He goes back in forth between me and her (she doesn't know he is with me when he is). I know i deserve better, but its hard. Does he care at all? Why can't i move on? Please help.
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reader, Puja_thoughts +, writes (7 February 2011):
Moving on is never easy....But in this case that is RIGHT thing to do.
I think you already know in your heart and mind that you need to move on. Engage yourself in work or a hobby or with your friends. Keep yourself busy. If nothing else then find some voluntary service work. You can use your mental, physical and emotional energy for the good of someone who really needs it.
DONOT invest anymore of your time on this guy. He is selfish, fickle and has no respect or love for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): Cut all contact with him immediately. He's a cheater. I feel sooo sorry for the girl he's dating, because she is clueless to him trying to slut around on her with you. Don't give him your time of any day, not even as a friend as he has no respect for you. If he did, he wouldn't insult you by hinting at being a skank for an affair. Don't allow him to come at you like that, unless of course being his sloppy sleazy seconds is all good for you?
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