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writes:I'm thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend but i don't know. Help, tell me wether you think i should or not ?Well... I don't really enjoy his kisses, are relationship is suppose to be a secret for a bit while i sort other things out but he keeps telling loads of people and its unbeliveable how many people no when its only supose to be us to.I mean fair enough its hard to keep a secret from your best mate so i didn't mind him telling his best mate, but then he told all of his mates, and then my mates and then even a teacher... It just got really annoying because i didnt tell anyone at all. And he said i could trust him not to tell anyone which he's told loads of people. Also he wanted me to go round his today, but for some reason, im findig my self makeing up excuses why i cant go. I dont really understand why i just dont want to go.Some days i realise how much i truly love him and i think 'why was i thinking about ending it i love him way too much', but then other days i wonder why i am with him, and i just wanna end it.But the thing is i dont want to end it and it be a mistake. because i no i love hugging him and spending time with him, but on the other hand some times i dont wanna hang around with him. I dont actually no what to think any more im like really confused. i dont under stand why i feel like this. Why cant i just simply make up my mind whether i want to be with him or not. :(What should i do? And advice would be nice :) thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (21 February 2009):
 Firstly, the fact that you don't enjoy his kisses suggests there is no physcial attraction too him. Secondly, I think the 'other things' are actually your feelings for another person? Thirdly, having said I don't think there is a physical attraction I think you do enjoy spending time with him socially sometimes but that sometimes but not all the time because you quite like having your own space.
You said you like hugging me and the strong impression I am getting off of all this that your feelings for this guy are more friendly than romantic. My guess from all that you say is that he is much more into you than you are too him (this would also account for him telling so many people, it's kind-of showing off). You enjoy having his affection which seems to me to be pretty much guranteed to you and don't want to risk losing that but I get the distinct impression that your heart really isn't in this....I think you should tell him that you just want to be friends to try and soften the blow but essentially leave him as bf/gf. Good luck :).
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reader, flicka23  +, writes (21 February 2009):
 what do teenagers like you understand in complicated things like love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): if you are having doubts bin him. You're very young and should be having fun.
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