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*howstopper
writes:why is it so hard for me to tell the guy i love how i feel about him, like discuss my feeling for him instead of beating around the bush Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): I would agree with PeterPan. Only once in my life, I was not strong enough to know the truth and have maintained such an illusion; and the illusion is still there twelve years later! I did not reveal how I felt, because it was 'hard'. If I had to do it over, I would tell the truth about my feelings right there and then.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (19 June 2008):
 ...because like the rest of us on the planet, you are intimidated by rejection. On one level, if you never ask, you'll never know and are safe with your own strong (but hidden) affections. On the other hand, if you come out and confess your admiration for this guy and he rejects you... POOF!... the illusion is over and has been wiped out by an uncontrollable truth.
These things are hard to deal with, but ultimately, it's better to live and love in a real world than to maintain an illusion that doesn't include anyone but yourself. It sure would be nice if the affections we had for somebody would be immediately reciprocated... but life doesn't work like that. In life, you have to take that risk and step out into the darkness and pray there's ground underneath you. Isn't it better to live knowing the truth and move through your life in the real world than harboring an imagined reality only in your own mind?
Go for it -- tell him how you feel and accept the consequences of reality!!
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