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writes:I am 58 and a female. I dated a gentleman for a year and ask him for a little more time along and more efection.we always had to have friends around.I own my home, he rents. He would never spent the night, but I would stay at his home on Fri.and Sat.evenings. So I broke up with him about a month ago. He is dating this woman that has a 10 year old son. He is at her house every night painting or fixing up something for her. He picks up her son from school takes him on outings. But, my ex. gave me his cell phone and check book to pay his bills. He is always debiting and broke before his next check. He also has started painting and fixing things around my house when I am at work. He never works with me on a project but he does work with her. Do I wait or say forget it and keep doing his accounting and stay friends and let him date the other woman and let him do little jobs around my house.She knows about him and the cell phone, not the checking . He has told her that he will do things for me and stay my friend for as long as I let him. I asked him if we were going to try again,when he was talking to me from her house working and he said, that he didn't know so I said that I would give him a couple of more days. What is this man thinking? If he really wanted to be with me wouldn't he have spent more time with me. But why is he still doing things for me and trusting me with his money and cell phone. This woman owns her house and a buisness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Thank you. I believe you are right. I don't believe he knows what he wants. I need to work on my self-esteem and go on, instead of being second. I might be lucky to have a friend instead of a relationship with someone that can not take care of himself.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 I think this gentlemand doesnt really know what he wants. I dont think he will be able to commit to you so you need to decide if you WANT to stay friends and do the things you do for him or if you will eventually want more.
Do whatever feels right to you but dont let yourself get hurt.
He may genuinely want you as a friend or he may just not want to hurt you but if he cant decide what he wants then you have to make all the decisions here. x
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