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writes:I have deleted my ex's mobile number and all his/my messages to each other.Why/what is stopping me deleting him from facebook? He has a girlfriend but I believe he has restricted my access to his wall. Why can't I do the final 'nail in the coffin' so to speak?I know we will never be together again,he is a liar, I don't do liarsand I am happy as I am, so what could be stopping me?Not registered but will follow up to any advice.Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): OP here.
Thank you all so much for your advice and kind words. (Glad to know some people have also been in the same dilema)
Every single one of you have said delete him, so I know what I have to do. No time like the present hey!
I think it will also stop me thinking about him and his loved up new life too!
Shame we all live in the same town (I spend my life trying to avoid bumping into them! I really don't want to have to say hello to them! So far so good on that one!) I look forward to the day that I totally won't give a shit!:-)
Hugs to you all, you're all great xx
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 Change is hard. But you already know what you need to do. So, login to FB and delete him so that you cat get on with your life. I am willing to bet that in a few months, you won't even remember what he looked like.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): I'll tell you what. Reading this now means you're online. Go to your facebook right now. Open up his profile, go to the bottom left and click block. Select block from the menu. and close that tab.
Then ask yourself why it took you so long to do that and I think you'll have your answer. But until that's done, we can tell you what we think until the cows come home, you won't truly figure it out for yourself until you've done it.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 I did this very recently with someone I had been seeing. I did the cull over a few days. Phone number and text messages went first, then e-amils, pictures and messenger. I had taken all his stuff back to him and even gave back the gifts and cards he bought me. I did not want any visual reminders that would trigger a sadness attack.
Finally after a week I blocked his FB and also that of his new GF.
I also change my mobile phone number so I could relax and know he couldn't contact me if he was feeling bored or lonely (something he used to do when we broke up before).
Yes it was hard, but in a weird way it helped me draw a line under the split, knowing my options for staying in touch were gone and that unless he came banging on my door, he could never contact me again.
It gave me back my power. The relationship was dead, nothing could revive it, so you need to be brave, accept it's done with and get rid of all the ties that keep your mind and heart upon him. If you don't do it, you will be stuck in limbo and won't ever be able to move on.
Good luck and hugs for you. I know what you are going through xxx
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reader, naley  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 It's always hard cutting someone out who previously meant so much. I think there's always a part of you who wants to hold onto who you 'thought' they were, or how they treated you before the problems/lies (usually in the beginning they are great boyfriends which is how we end up with them in the first place). You have already established that he is no good for you. He is a liar and you don't want to be with a liar. I also don't think it's healthy to have him on there when he has moved on. On some level that must hurt if you have not completely moved on yet. As much as you don't want to, do yourself a favour and delete him. Facebook isn't a personalised way to talk to eachother anyway - so if you were to ever talk to each other again it shouldn't be over facebook anyway. So many problems start online or via text message anyway. If he wants to talk to you one day then he should call you. He probably hasn't deleted your contacts. Guys don't seem to stress about that stuff like us. Anyway, I know what it's like and I hope you start to feel better soon. Naley
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reader, bardia +, writes (12 February 2012):
 I understand. Deleting just a couple things at a time made it easier to deal with. Pics from the phone, computer, my own Facebook page...then I deleted ALL of the text messages, ALL of the Facebook and email correspondence. Then all the contact information from my phone. Blocked him on my email accounts. Finally I blocked him on Facebook. It's such a temptation to want to follow and know what they are doing...are they happy, are they having as difficult a time as yourself...but I'm finding it's best to just get rid of it all and not think so much about how he's doing. It's difficult. This has been and will continue to be ongoing FORWARD progress. As Nike says, just do it. You'll feel the sting initially, but you'll feel so much better after...sorry you're dealing with this.
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