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writes:i had sex with my ex boyfriend, actually he was my first. we had sex multiple of times but i could never get wet for him.when i masturbate i get really wet so i dont get it .i have a new boyfriend now and we've been dating for awhile and i want to have sex but im afraid i wont be able to get wet.my ex said it felt like 'sandpaper' and thats what he told my boyfriend now.my boyfriend doesnt believe him but if we have sex and i cant get wet then he might agree.i have a big clit so is that the reason why i cant get wet?help please.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (24 March 2009):
 Alright, no one else has, so I need to comment on your age. You are in the 13-15 group and anyone in that age really is too young to be having sex, in my opinion. The clearest reason why is being highlighted here and called out by the previous two poster Jay and Cerb.
They are right in their assessments, too. It sounds you and your previous boyfriend just jumped right into it without foreplay.
And reading between the lines of him saying you felt like sandpaper: you guys did not use a condom. Please, please... always use a condom until you are ready to have kids! I don't care if your boyfriend complains till the end of the world. If you aren't ready to have kids, then you shouldn't be having unprotected sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): Not enough foreplay. You can't just jump into penetrative sex, you have to get aroused "wet" first. If your boyfriend can't do that then show him how.
Your ex was just inexperienced fool so it doesn't matter what he thinks it felt like and he's an asshole for telling your boyfriend that.
No it's nothing to with the size of your clit.
Perhaps this boyfriend will be able to get you aroused but if he can't then show him how it's done, you shouldn't really have sex until you're properly aroused.
To be honest, and I don't want to sound patronizing, but this is very basic stuff and you not knowing kinda makes me think you're a little young to be having sex.
Perhaps you should read up on it a bit or just wait 'til you're older. I mean how did he know it felt like sandpaper, was he not wearing a condom?
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reader, JayC1989 +, writes (24 March 2009):
I used to have this problem also!! The problem for me was that there wasn't enough foreplay going on before sex. It takes a women a little bit longer to get sexually aroused than a man. I suggest that your boyfriend and you make out longer, caress each other's bodies, dry hump, let him rub your clit and finger you before having full blown sex. If you still don't find yourself getting wet use lube.
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