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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have no idea where to start. I have had a crush on this guy since I was 13 and he was 20. I am now 19 and I have been talking to him online through facebook and myspace.I was in a relationship for about two years and I had a baby boy. During the relationship I was sure I was over this guy, even though I talked to him online once or twice. I have been away from my ex for 6 months now.About 3 months ago I sent my crush an e-mail asking him how he would react if someone asked him if he'd like to hang out. He said he would like to know what he had in common with that person before he could make that decision. So then (stupidly, I know) I sent him an e-mail asking him if he wanted to get to know me. Well he never replied and I assumed I freaked him out. I deleted him from my friends as a way to try to get over him...well it didn't work.Recently I asked him a question about an artist he had stated he liked on his profile. He wrote back to me about it as if I had never sent him that embarrassing e-mail.I'm so confused. He so readily answered my question, but he never replied to the other message. So, what do I do?? I really like him, but I have a feeling he doesn't like me. I try not to be pushy, but I can't help but ask him questions about stuff. He never asks me anything, as if he doesn't want to know anything about me. I just can't get over him. I feel like he's become a "crutch" for me. I don't even now if I really like him. He does so much stuff that just irritates me, yet I keep coming back to him.What is wrong with me? Why can't I just move on from him?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): I've been in your position. And let me tell you this now - you are wasting your time. He didn't respond to your first email because he's not interested in you and doesn't want to lead him on. I know you think you really want him, but you don't even really know him that well, do you? You're obsessed with this fantasy that just happens to resemble this man you don't actually know. Get out there and find a guy who's interested in you. It may take some time to find someone you really click with, but once you do you'll forget all about fantasy boy. Oh, and a little self-control would go a long way too. By that I mean FORCE yourself to stop thinking about him by distracting yourself somehow.
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