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writes:I am "friends" with this guy my problem is he hasn't been texting me or talking to me...I've done something bad, as in texting him multiple times, each day. (I know that is really bad and clingy!) I'm not like this with every guy honestly. It's been 3weeks since we've hung out. And I'm just worried about him, I honestly I'm like his only friend cause he's a jerk to everyone there are even people that would be happy if he was dead. I actually care about him. About 2 months ago he took my virgintiy and we have been intimate multiple times after. So I don't get why he doesn't wanna hangout. I like him he's not just my _____ buddy. I wanna be around him and know he's ok. He's done this before but it's harder cause I'm moving 3hrs away soon. My question why does it take me longer to get rid of guys? I mean the 1st guy who I ever "loved" (or thought I loved, people say I don't know what love is) had been gone for 2yrs from my life I still care about him and I still cry some nights. When it seems that all these other people can get over it so fast. And my friends who have been through worst situations can smile and act like nothing's happened, when I can't. I'm just now starting to move on. Now there's this guy and it's not the same amount of pain but it still sucks. What's wrong with me? The Internet says I should be able to cry for 2-3days and get over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2013): You like attaching yourself to jerks. There's no competition for them. Nobody wants them.
Guys you think "need" you. Then you sit around "worried" about them; when they aren't giving you a second thought. He doesn't respect you, and he doesn't really care about anybody. He thinks you're screwed up like he is.
Sometimes girls pick these types of situations; because they like the drama of sulking. They're in love, with being in-love.
They specifically pick boys who will treat them the way you are being treated. It gives them drama. The challenge of trying to fix the stupid jerk, who may as well use them like toilet paper. No one understands him like you do.
Then you sit wasting the whole day "worrying" why he doesn't contact you.
Worrying about what?
He is doing exactly what you expect him to do. He is ignoring you; because he doesn't care about you. He can use you for sex when he wants to.
You keep getting this kind of guy; because you know he will treat you this way.
They are isolated, don't have friends, antisocial, and down right nasty. You ignore everything people tell you, and then sit around miserable over a loser.
No, you don't know what love is. You won't allow yourself to find out. You prefer drama.
You avoid nice guys; because you're afraid they'll bore you.
They won't allow you to be clingy, and will notice that you might be a little needy. You want guys that ignore your faults; but they also ignore your feelings at the same time.
You're too young to let boys just trash you over like that.
It's not just happening by accident, you go looking for losers. He has to be hated and rejected for you to like him. He has to be disliked by everybody else; so you can show him you're the only one who cares.
When you realize that you are a really sweet girl, with a very big heart; who deserves someone who appreciates you for that. You will not find yourself being the one left feeling bad and all alone. Their feelings are long gone; or never existed, and yours are wasted.
There's nothing really wrong with you. There's something wrong with the type of boys you like.
You're afraid you're not good enough for nicer guys. At least you expect bad boys to be bad to you. Nice guys are like aliens to you. They expect you to look nice, or behave a certain way. So you must think.
You've never really given the right guy a chance.
Stop seeing boys for a little while. Take time off. Let all the bad feelings you have fade away. Take all the time you need, and leave that jerk alone. Luck fell on you, and he's pulled away by fate.
You are just a little bit of a drama queen. You like being the sulking girl, like in the soap operas. Always done wrong by her man.
Well, you're noticing that it doesn't make sense, that's why you want to know what's wrong with you.
You're starting to grow up. Realizing that you shouldn't waste your feelings, and should be able to get over guys quicker than you do. Now you're thinking straight.
That will stop when you stop being with boys that will leave you feeling bad; because you feel stupid and used.
You're just a nice girl learning the hard way.
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