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writes:Hi, well like many others my boyfriend of a year dumped me, a day before our one year anniversary. I don't think it was a commitment thing cuz he always was asking for me to move in and such . But I was on a lease and couldn't at the time . But anyways things in the beginning started off great , I was probably holding back alot because I was just scared . But things continued on and seemed fine for a long time after that. Until he started playing this on line video game, and soon he was on it constantly. Doing nothing else, he even started ditching me for this game. Even ended a few of our date nights early for it. And I brought up that I was feeling neglected, and that it hurt me by him ditching me lately. And that's when the fight started, he replied by saying how we are just to different, and he's lost the feelings he had in the beginning. So we can't contuniue or relationship because he says we can't get em back . Mine never changed and I feel if he just spent time with me like we used to, then things could even be better. But now he's ignoring me, won't answer my texts or calls. He's acting like I beat him up or cheated on him or something. I don't know what to do because I do just want him back. But is he really done? How do I get him to communicate with me? How can he just leave it like that , acting as if he never cared at all. I'm super torn. I know there's plenty fish in the sea and I can move on. But what happened? Why is he not at least trying to work it out. I think that game got to him and he feels like he isn't happy cuz he wasn't living. Please help anyone !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): Sorry, but he was using the video thing as an excuse for whatever else he was really doing, probably seeing someone else. I think you need to accept it's over and that he's moved on.
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reader, emmalou  +, writes (21 May 2009):
i know you probably won't want to hear this but it sounds to me that he was doing a lot more than playing a game online,most people who treat you as though you have cheated on them is because they are trying to cover up the fact that they are guilty of doing it themselves. if this isn't the case try and get him to go to relationship counselling sessions with you. i hope you manage to work it out good luck
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