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writes:My boyfriend is acting really odd.It all started when I told him I missed two periods and told him about it. For then on all he talks about is sex and not just normal things he talks about how he pees on himself and licks his own cum. Hes never been like that before ever.Whenever I try to talk about him coming to the doctors with me for a pregnacy test he just changes the subject to sex. How do I get through to him that I might be pregnant and want to know whats up.I feel so messed up at the moment. Is it normal for him to be like this or not?
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reader, Hel_82 +, writes (21 May 2009):
In my opinion he's scared and that's why he changes the subject. As Lani702 suggests let him spout his nonsense and then firmly tell him that changing the subject and trying to ignore the situation wont make it go away, in fact it could just make it worse. Tell him you know he's scared and it's ok to be but it'll make the whole thing easier for both of you if you face it together, from going for the test right through to giving birth if you are pregnant.
If he carries on being childish then go for the test alone or ask a friend or relative to go with you and if you are pregnant then decide what you want to do. Once you've decided sit him down and tell him firmly that you're pregnant and what you would like to do. If he wont face his responsibilities then you need to decide if he's worth all the upset. My personal opinion is if he doesn't want to know get rid of him and ask your Mum or a close friend to be your birthing partner go to the anti-natal classes with you so your not on your own.
Main thing is try not to get yourself too stressed over it all (I know that's easier said than done) as it wont do you any good at all whether you're pregnant or not. Keep your chin up and don't let your muppet boyfriend drag you down to his level, but then again you sound like you have more sense than that. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): He wants you to break up with him because he doesn't want to be the bad guy. I hope you aren't pregnant because it doesn't sound like he'll be sticking around.
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reader, pebble +, writes (21 May 2009):
 I think you have more important things to be thinking about right now. The idiot can wait. Find out whether you're pregnant or not first.
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reader, Lani702  +, writes (21 May 2009):
 This is my honest answer. In my opinion, he talks about really weird things when you bring up your missed periods because subconciously he wants you to be so turned off/grossed out that you dump him. Voila! He is then off the hook. I say to do this: Bring up the missed periods. The moment he starts going off the deep end, don't react. Listen to him spew his nonsense. When he takes a breath, say very non-chalantly, "Are you done? Because we need to go find out if I'm pregnant." Tell him that no matter what he says or does, you're not letting him off the hook and that you are BOTH responsible and will BOTH see this matter to the end, whatever end that will be. And he can talk about weird crap until the cows come home but it won't change the fact that he is in this with you. Hope this helps and I wish you all the best.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 May 2009):
Well it's clear that he's really only interested in you for one thing.
Go to the doctors alone. You don't need him to hold your hand.
Most family planning clinics don't need appointments so you can go tomorrow and drop in.
There is a good chance that you will end up raising this kid alone as he sounds rather unreliable. Get strong and deal with this alone.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009):
no its not normal - i would ignore it and you go get checked out. I presume you have done a home test?
more important to get it sorted than worry about him being a dipstick....
Star.x.
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